Was Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) a Pedophile?

06:12 Posted by Saaib Ahmed




“Your Prophet was Pedophile,” the most infuriating comment of the 21st century quoted by critics of Islam and Muslims try to avoid it as long as possible. There is no denying the fact that Prophet Muhammad is the most cultured and well-behaved mortal who ever walked on the face of this earth.  His words, knowledge and personality are incomparable to anyone. His kindness, love and affection guided humanity from the darkest valleys of ignorance and into the light of satisfaction and truthfulness. Although he was not educated from any school or any scholarly institution, still he was popular for his honesty and kindness that earned him the titles “Sadiq” and “Ameen”.  He forgave all men after conquering Mekkah even though the Mekkah was the inhabitant of worst enemies of Islam and of Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) himself. He preached his followers kindness and morality and made it a religious obligation. He said: A Muslim has five duties towards another Muslim; to return a salutation, visit the sick, follow funerals, accept an invitation and say 'God have mercy on you' when one sneezes. But critics portrait some Islamic principles and actions of the Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) in such a way that one may think that he was the biggest antisocial element who ever breathed in the soils of Arabia. 
These critics left no stone unturned to portrait Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) as terrorist, criminal or worst of all a “PEDOPHILE”. They say that Muhammad (P.B.U.H) was a happy man because he had 11 wives and it is not hard to imagine in which sense they are meaning. These critics highlight prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) as “Pedophile” because he married a nine old girl Ayesha (R.A).


*PEDOPHILIA-An Introduction*

Let us analyze what is Pedophilia, types of pedophiles and personality traits of each Pedophile and seek these traits in Prophet’s life if they ever existed in him. What is Pedophilia? DSM-IV and DSM-IV-TR define pedophilia as recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving activity with a prepubescent child or children (generally 13 years or younger).”  Pedophilia is a personality disorder in which a person is sexually attracted to children both male and female. Pedophiles can be homosexual and heterosexual but the heterosexual pedophiles are more than homosexual pedophiles i.e. 11:1.  Pedophiles like to be surrounded by children all the time. They work as teachers, boy scouts leaders, counselors, child care providers etc, in-fact any profession that will allow them to interact with children in their ‘preferred age range’. Pedophiles are narcissistic by nature and their bragging come across as narcissistic. Pedophiles usually prefer a specific age limits for their targets and they ever go beyond that range. They are mainly two types of Pedophiles.
1. Situational Pedophiles.
2. Preferential Pedophiles.
1. SITUATIONAL PEDOPHILES: These pedophiles are the most stable ones. They go after any defenseless person such as elders, emotionally handicapped etc. They like the seduction process. It has three subtypes:
a. Regressed Pedophiles: They have a hard time in interaction with adults. They usually hunt female victims but if the stressed becomes too much, they will go after any defenseless person.
b. The indiscriminate Pedophiles: They are often calm and charismatic and always go after children in their preferred age range. They are very dangerous as their only aim is sexual fun at the expense of victims. They also keep on an eye on victim’s friend and chose their future victim carefully.
c. The immature pedophiles: They are less manipulative and naïve. They have a lot of stress to deal with. Their victims come from their own neighborhood and have preferred age range but sometimes deviate from it.
2. PREFERENTINAL PEDOPHILES: They have preferred age range and never deviate from it. It has two subtypes:
a. Seductive pedophiles: They are homosexual male which only prefer male victims. They offer gifts and strength their friendship. After sometime, they introduce pornography and sex videos and after abusing their victims they confuse them and hold them responsible.
b. Sadistic pedophiles:  They are very intelligent and cover long distances for their targets. They are grotesque when it comes to sexual preferences. They are mainly from upper to middle class families.
*TRAITS OF PEDOPHILES ACCORDING TO Psychiatric Times. Vol. 26 No. 6 June 8, 2009*
Now let’s take a look on the research of doctors, Lisa J. Cohen, PhD and Igor Galynker, MD, PhD. Dr Cohen is associate professor of clinical psychiatry and Dr Galynker is professor of clinical psychiatry and associate chairman for research in the department of psychiatry at Beth Israel Medical Center/Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York. Just to make this article terse and compact, I have summarized their research into the following points but before I present you the traits of pedophilia, I want to inform you that there is no way we can detect the exact reason of  pedophilia, the research done so far comes from the victims or the criminals themselves.  According to their work on pedophilia gives the following traits,


1) They both have motivational and impaired inhibition. In addition, neurobiological abnormalities may pertain to either motivational or inhibitory dysfunction.


2) The possible motivational factors include social anxiety and the abused-abused theory. This suggests that a pedophile’s own history of childhood sexual abuse predisposes him or her to pedophilic tendencies. Indeed this is the one proposed etiological factor that has received robust support in the literature. Estimates of the incidence of childhood sexual abuse in pedophiles’ histories range from 40% up to 100% (Freund K, Kuban M. The basis of the abused abuser theory of pedophilia: a further elaboration on an earlier study. ArchSexBehav.1994; 23:553-563& also from Knopp F, Lackey L. Female sexual abusers: a summary of data from 44 treatment providers. Orwell, VT: The Safer Society Program of the New York State Council of Churches; 1987.)

3) They remarked, “We have suggested that abuse sustained during early childhood may result in neurodevelopment abnormalities that predispose to pedophilic sexual desire. Nonetheless, most studies suggest that a sizable proportion of pedophiles were not abused as children.”
This mean that it is true for ‘true pedophiles’ but we can’t rely on it when it comes to opportunistic ones. The report defines true pedophiles and opportunistic pedophiles as:
“True pedophiles are those who show persistent and focused sexual attraction to prepubescent children. They show specific arousal to pedophilic stimuli on physiological measures of sexual arousal and have repeated sexual encounters with or recurrent sexual urges toward children. Opportunistic pedophiles have less of a focused sexual attraction to children. Their sexual engagement with children may depend on circumstances, such as the availability of a child victim, disinhibition secondary to substance abuse, or difficulty in connecting with an adult sexual partner.”
 (Cohen LJ, Nikiforov K, Gans S, et al. Heterosexual male perpetrators of childhood sexual abuse: a preliminary neuropsychiatric model. Psychiatr Q. 2002 ;)

4Possible inhibitors include impulsivity, cognitive distortion and physcopathy.(Physcophath means a person with an antisocial personality disorder, manifested in aggressive, perverted, criminal, or amoral behavior without empathy or remorse)

5) Their sexual urges with children may be resulted due to poor self-confidence, or other personality traits that inhibit appropriate sexual relations with adults. While some other studies have reported elevated level of cluster C, poor self-esteem and impaired assertiveness.( Cohen LJ, Nikiforov K, Gans S, et al. Heterosexual male perpetrators of childhood sexual abuse: a preliminary neuropsychiatric model. Psychiatr Q.2002; 73:313-336.)

6) According to their own work on pedophilia, they found that it resulted due to impaired interpersonal skills while other reported low self confidence, feeling of shame, low self-esteem and social avoidance.

7) Pedophiles normally have low IQ then the healthy ones. ( Cantor JM, Blanchard R, Robichaud LK, Christensen BK. Quantitative reanalysis of aggregate data on IQ in sexual offenders. Psychol Bull. 2005;131: 555-568).

8) According to the report, one finding that has robust support is the tendency toward grossly distorted thinking. Pedophiles commonly experience their sexual urges as ego-syntonic. Presumably in an effort to justify behavior that is widely socially condemned, pedophiles frequently rationalize, minimize, and normalize their sexual interaction with children, sometimes to the point of delusional ideation. Relatedly, several studies have noted high levels of schizotypal and other cluster A personality traits in this population.
Let us give a brief look at two types of clusters found in pedophile i.e. Cluster A and Cluster C. Since report only highlighted avoidant disorder of cluster C and schizotpyal of cluster A and ‘some’ other traits from both of them thus to save myself from uttering any generalities and vague statements, I will cover the entire gamut of both the clusters.
CLUSTER A:  It has three subtypes which are:

Schizoid Personality Disorder (SPD): A person must possess following traits in order to classify in this category (at least four should be present)
·      neither desires nor enjoys close relationships, including being part of a family
·      almost always chooses solitary activities
·      has little, if any, interest in having sexual experiences with another person
·      takes pleasure in few, if any, activities
·      lacks close friends or confidantes other than first-degree relatives
·      appears indifferent to the praise or criticism of others
·      shows emotional coldness, detachment, or flattened affectivity.
Schizotypal Personality Disorder (SPD): A person must possess following traits before he/she should be classified in this category (at least five should be found):
·      Ideas of reference
·      Odd beliefs or magical thinking that influences behavior and is inconsistent with sub cultural norms
·      Unusual perceptual experiences, including bodily illusions
·      Odd thinking and over-elaborate speech
·      Suspiciousness or paranoid thought process
·      Inappropriate or constricted affect (externally displayed emotion or mood)
·      Behavior or appearance that is odd, eccentric, or peculiar
·      Lack of close friends other than first-degree relatives
·      Excessive social anxiety that does not diminish with familiarity and tends to be associated with paranoid fears.

Paranoid Personality Disorder (PPD): A person must possess the following traits before him/she should be included in this category (at least four should be present):
·      Unfounded suspicion that others are exploiting, harming, or deceiving him or her
·      Preoccupation with unjustified doubts about the loyalty of friends or associates
·      Reluctance to confide in others because of unwarranted fear that the information will be used against him or her
·      finds hidden demeaning or threatening meanings into benign remarks or events
·      persistently bears grudges and is unforgiving
·      frequently perceives attacks on his or her character and is quick to react angrily or to counterattack
·      unjustified suspicions regarding fidelity of spouse or sexual partner.
CLUSTER C: It also has three subtypes:
Avoidant Personality Disorder (AVPD): A person should have following traits before he/she should be included in this category:
·      avoids activities involving interpersonal contact
·      Unwilling to get involved due with people unless certain of being liked
·      shows restraint in intimate relationships due to a fear of shame or ridicule
·      marked preoccupation of being rejected or criticized by others
·      inhibited in new social situations because of feelings of inadequacy
·      views self as socially inept, personally unappealing, or inferior to others
·      reluctant to take personal risks or engage in new activities, for a fear of being embarrassed.
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD): A person should have the following traits before he/she should be classified in this category (at least four should be present):
·      Perfectionism that interferes with task completion.
·      Excessive devotion to work and productivity to the exclusion of leisure activities and friendships (not accounted for by obvious economic necessity).
·      Being over conscientious, scrupulous, and inflexible about matters of morality, ethics, or values (not accounted for by cultural or religious identification).
·      Inability to discard worn-out or worthless objects even when they have no sentimental value.
·      Reluctance to delegate tasks or to work with others unless they submit to exactly his or her way of doing things.
·      A miserly spending style toward both self and others; money is viewed as something to be hoarded for future catastrophes.
·      Rigidity and stubbornness.
Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD): A person should have following traits before he/she should be classified in this category (at least five criteria must be fulfilled):
·      Difficulty making everyday decisions without an excessive amount of advice
·      needs others to assume responsibility for most major areas of his or her life
·      Difficulty expressing disagreement with others
·      Difficulty initiating projects or doing things on his or her own
·      goes to excessive lengths to obtain nurturance and support from others
·      exaggerated fears of being unable to care for him or herself
·      urgently seeks another relationship when a close relationship ends
·      preoccupied with fears of being left to take care of him or herself.
Note:  Above mentioned criteria is according to DSM-IV-TR (Diagnostic and Statistical manual of mental disorder) published by US government.  Readers must know that all people who have these clusters are not necessarily pedophiles .Even the report suggests “it is unlikely that these traits are specific to pedophilia.”  The exact reason of how these clusters or personality disorders caused is still unknown today.

Since we are discussing the pedophilia which is placed in the fourth category of perversions by Kernberg (2006) thus I consider this as my duty to discuss also what is taking place in a pedophile’s mind which caused to him to commit such a shameful act. Since Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) is also called as ‘pervert’ (God forbid) which is considered ‘derogatory’ and in psychological literature the term used is ‘paraphilia’ and pedophilia falls under the category of paraphilia. Dr.Estela V Weldon remarked, “Pedophilia belongs to the group of disorder referred to as ‘the perversions’.

MENTAL MECHANSIM


Dr.Estela V Weldon founder and president for life International Association for Forensic Psychotherapy London describe the mental mechanism of a pervert in her article “Specific Characteristics of pedophilia amongst other Male and Female Perversions” on page 2 as In perversion, sexual anxiety appears as a result of conflict between the id and the superego, in which the id titillates the ego with the bizarre fantasy. The id puts pressure on the ego to be partly, or temporarily, corrupted by its increasing needs (see graph). The ego, supported by the superego, fights against the acting out of the fantasy since it is felt to be incompatible with the ego's sense of integrity. Thus anxiety increases, and immediate action is demanded. Eventually, under the increasing pressure from the id, the ego is corrupted and succumbs to the 'acting-out'. The action has become temporarily ego-syntonic (actions consistent with one’s self-image), thus allowing the perversion to take place. The goal, which is the release of hostile sexual anxiety, is essential. The hostility is related to revenge for an early trauma associated with early gender humiliation and/or tremendous fears of not being in control when facing the imagined loss of the most important person (primary object). However, the sense of well-being achieved is of short duration. It is immediately afterwards superseded by feelings of guilt, self-disgust, shame and depression. The "acting out" is again experienced as ego-dystonic (actions not inconsistent with self image), and the circular motion starts up once more.”


For the readers who are unaware of terms like id, ego and super ego which are considered as brain mechanism not brain parts, id is the ‘pleasure seeker’ with no moral values, ego is the mechanism that allows the selective portion of id to take place which are accepted by the society as a whole, super ego is the mechanism that regulates actions of ego and if ego does something bad it creates the sense of guilt and remorse. Bizarre fantasies (sexual fantasies) are experienced by pedophiles due to pedophilic traits and as the pressure develops, ego is weakened and unable to defend further attack from id so due to great pressure (stress), ego perform the action as suggested by id as ego-syntonic. This sexual release is due to molester’s own childhood experienced or some other factor but it must come out so as to relieve the stress. The action is later superseded by feeling of shame, guilt and remorse and the release is experienced as ego-dystonic as against the interest of the ego. The absence or inability to mourn is associated to early experience of not having place in the world.

*Darwin Dorr’s concept of pedophile*

Let view Darwin Dorr point of view regarding pedophilia in the bookPsychopath: antisocial, criminal, and violent behavior By Theodore Millon, Erik Simonsen, Morten Birket-Smith, Roger D. Davis, He says,”Clinicans know much about the dynamics of physcopath, and I am asserting that many of these elements of physcopath are also present in pedophile.” (pg.304). It means that according to his observation pedophilia and physcopahty share some common traits, although psychopath and pedophile are two different persons but since they have some common traits that is why I pick this is so that I don’t want to leave a single room for the critics to criticize. He also remarked, I have been influenced also by the theoretical contribution of Kernber (1984), Yochelson and Same now (1976), same now (1984) and Meloy (1988), which examine the psychodynamics of physcopathic personality. The authors outline a distinctive sequence of cognitions and emotions in the physcopath that lead to acts of predation. The crux of their work is important to the subject of this chapter in the revelation that pedophilia is most decidedly an act of physcopathic predation...”(pg.307). According to him the physcopath dreads the opposite of grandiose state which is also known as “Zero State”. In this state, self-esteem plummets to rock bottom and a feeling of worthlessness, hopelessness, futilitydevelops in which there is a belief that thoughts and feelings are transparent to others.  This state is depressive but the primary emotion is ‘rage’ & this is fueled by envy and greed for what others have but a physcopath does have it. Youchelson and Samenow (1977) have emphasized that physcopath are envy of what others are (full human being with a genuine sense of self-worth), not what others have. These authors have explained that “Depression in the criminal is basically an angry state in which he blazes at the injustice of the world” and also he resents and covets the full humanness of others.  He/she seeks to own (steal, possess, conquer) and/or to devalue (destroy, punish, diminish, ruin) the other. In any case the resulting behavioral pattern is predation in which there is no concern for the fate of the object but instead in these condition of anger, frustration, loneliness and impaired self-esteem there is a strongly felt sense of deprivation that may precipitate sexual aggression. In case of the pedophile it is a minor who is punished and destroyed. He agrees with Mayer’s views, “Mayer has emphasized that the dynamics of power, including control and dominance, prevail in the psychology of child molester. She also notes their difficulty with anger control and anger expression. In addition, Mayer has found pedophilesview children as object of possession without rights. She points out that certain personality with low impulse control, low frustration tolerance, frustrated dependency needs and needs for immediate gratification for their desires. Mayer has noted as well that alcohol abuse plays a role in the cycle of sexual abuse. Furthermore, she suggests that approximately 80% of pedophiles were themselves molested as children. She theorizes that pedophile perpetuate abuse because of their own displaced anger. That is, molesters continue to harbor anger towards the perpetrators who originally molested them, but displace this anger onto even younger children. Mayer goes on to describe molester’s tendency to use rationalization, minimization and denial. She observes that often pedophiles will claim that their own behavior is perfectly normal and that frequently they will blame the children for having behaved seductively. An overall lack of social conscience in a pedophile’s action is noted, and how frustration tolerance and manipulativeness are seen as well. In addition, the pedophiles distrustfulness and inability to express guilt or remorse are described.” Long, Wuesthoff, and Pitchers (1989) observed negative emotional states such as loneliness, worthlessness, depression, anger or resentment similar to ‘zero state’. Jerkins Hall states: “Sexual offenders have the same flaws in their decision making as other criminals. They have the problem of foreseeing long-term consequences (positive or negative). Like psychopaths pedophile show great show great concern for personal needs and little consideration for the need of others. In actuality, personal needs are usually satisfied by manipulating and controlling the behaviors of others. This description could easily be applied to most of the pedophiles as well. Darwin Dorr described the criteria of a pedophile as stated in DSM-IV as The DSM-IV diagnostic criteria for a pedophile are as follow. First, for 6 months or more, the person has had strong, recurring sexually stimulating urges, fantasies, or behaviors involving sexual activity with a child or children below the age of puberty (usually 13 years of age of younger). Second, the sexual urges fantasies, or behaviors result in clinically meaningful difficulties or distress at work, in social contexts, or in other major areas of functioning. Third, the person 16 years of age or older, and is at least 5 years older than the child or children in question. Individuals in late adolescence who maintains long standing sexual relationships with 12-13 years old are not classified as pedophiles.” Like physcopaths, lower-level defenses e.g. splitting, primitive denial, rationalization, avoidance, and quasi-delusion, as well as acting out are also prominent in pedophiles.

 

*Millon’s theory of personality*


Let us focus ourselves to the Millon’s theory of personality; Millon’s intergrative system examines four levels of the personality:

1.  BEHAVIORAL: It includes the observable physical, verbal behaviors that can be read and identified by others and the individual’s style of relating others. Pedophiles tend to be impulsive or at least exhibit poor control over their impulses. Marlatt (1989) has captured this trait of pedophilia in his concept of the PIG. They tend to act hastily; to be shortsighted, incautious, and imprudent and to be ignorant of predictable consequences. The interpersonal behavior of a pedophile is also clearly irresponsible, untrustworthy and unable to abide by social codes, at least governing behavior with the children.

 

2. PHENOMENLOGICAL: This covers an individual’s thinking, internalized representation of significant others which may be experienced by the sensory modalities: visual, tactical etc as well as self-concept, the sense of ego, and the self. At phenomenological level, the cognitive style is described as ‘deviant’. They are disdainful of traditional ideals, fail to conform to social norms and are contemptuous of convention values. Once a pedophile told that this about his 6 year old step daughter that she liked sex! This is exemplified a remarkable cognitive deviancy. The pedophile’s internal representation to the child is debasedThis child is viewed as object to provide gratification rather than as a separate being with needs and rights. There is enormous distortion of who the child really is. In some instances, a pedophile will physically harm a child, which represents the acting out of vengeful attitudes. The self-image of the pedophile is extremely distorted, there are example of pedophiles who were friends of their victim’s families, and who violated personal loyalties, friendships, and social obligations by becoming sexually involved with the children.

 

3. INTRASPECIFIC: It covers ‘regulatory mechanism’ that controls the sense of self and ‘morphological organization’ it refers to structural strength, interior congruity, and functional efficacy of the personality system. Consider Marlatt’s (1989) discussion of the PIG. The pedophile show little tendency to sublimate, Constraint is rarely used to modulate expression of offensive thoughts or to control malevolent action. Instead of restraining repugnant impulses, the pedophile acts them out directly, usually without guilt or remorse.

4. BIOPHYSICAL: It is related to ‘mood and temperament’. This domain is not as directly relevant to a description of the pedophile as some of the other Million domains are. However, it can be argued that the pedophile, by definition, is deficient in social charitableness as well as in compassion and remorse for the act. Furthermore, there is by definition, a disregard for the safety of children-and, for the matter for the pedophile’s own safety. 


*brief history of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) & traits of pedophilia compared*

Before seeking these traits in Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) I would like to tell briefly about the humble and exemplary life of the greatest man who ever walked on the face of this earth.  Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) is the considered as last and final messenger of God by Muslims. His Prophet Hood is mentioned in the sacred scriptures of world’s major religion such as Hinduism, Christianity, Judaism, Parsiasim, Sikhism etc. This man was born in Mekkah and due to this truthfulness and transparent nature he earned the title of Sadiq (Truthful) and Ameen. He received his prophet hood in the cave of hira at the age of 40, when he started preaching Islam he had to face numerous problems and at last he migrated to Medina with his friend Abu-bakar (R.A) (father of Ayesha (R.A) ).  In Medina, many people embraced Islam due to piety and unparallel kindness of Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W), he gave right of inheritance to woman as well as their lost position in society, he also form laws for animals, imposed new and better laws, and in short he changed their life style completely. He fought many wars with his enemies but readers must know that Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) didn’t kill any individual but God kill infidels through his hand. After a peace treaty which was broken by infidels of Mekkah, he formed an army of nearly 1000 men and marched toward Mekkah and captured that city without killing anyone. He forgave all his enemies and didn’t let anyone to take revenge, soon due to his kindness and illuminating way of life inspired everyone to Islam and nearly the whole of Mekkah accepted Islam. This was a very brief insight in his life...Now let’s find these traits in our beloved Prophet’s (peace be upon him) life.

*NO PEDOPHILIC PROFESSION *

1.  All pedophiles prefer jobs which will ensure the company of children as stated above but we fairly know that Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) at an early used to graze the cattle of Bani-saad & later he became the most famous merchant of Arabia known for this truthfulness and piety. He never pursued any profession other than these two professions after he received prophet hood from God. So there is no question of getting involved with children all the time.

*PREFERED MARTIAL RELATIONSHIP*

2. All situational pedophile find themselves difficult to interact with adults and prefer sexual relationship with children in their ‘preferred age range’ but we fairly know that Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) was the best merchant in Arabia, such capabilities required great interacting capabilities with people & also we have no historical record that Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) really harassed any child (GOD forbid) not only this he married a 40 year old ‘adult’ and respectable widow ‘Khadija (R.A)’ which is impossible for pedophiles to do as they do not want to engage themselves in any relationship. Dr. Estela V Weldon says, “Pedophiles target primarily children underage, male and female, and they are not engaged in adult relationship.”(Under the heading Differential Diagnosis between incest perpetrators and pedophiles, “Specific Characteristics of pedophilia amongst other Male and Female perversions”)

*NO HOMOSEXUALITY*

3. All preferential pedophiles are homosexual males it means that they will not prefer woman or at least a woman as old as 40 to marry but we fairly know that Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) never indulge in such things, his character and chastity is incomparable to anyone. Throughout his life, he married only women & we know that Hazrat Khadija (R.A) was her first wife who was 40 years old. At the time of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) even before his prophet hood Arabs never indulge in homosexual relationships, some Arabs never believed that a man can be attracted sexually to another man.

*FACED CRITICISM BRAVELY*

4. As stated above all pedophiles first portray themselves as good guys means they do not prefer people passing derogatory comments about them nor any criticism is unaffordable but we know from history that Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) had to face lots of taunts from the non-believers of Arabia when he started preaching Islam. If he had any intentions of molesting any child, he could not have faced such criticism.

*NEVER ABUSED AS A CHILD*

5. According to the research stated above pedophiles, are motivated by some motivational factors such as the abused-abused theory but we know that Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was brought up under the company of eminent men of Arabia i.e. Abdul matlib, AbuTalib, when he was a child he was under the custody of ‘Halima’ in the best of environment as possible and besides pagan Arabs at that time never practice homosexuality so there is no possibility that he was abused when he was a child.

*HIGHLY INTELLIGENT*

6.  We can infer from the research that pedophilia causes due to poor self esteem, cognitive distortions, low confidence, social avoidance, feeling of shame, low self confidence, impaired assertiveness and also low IQ but these traits aren’t found in Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) in the least amount because it required great confidence to lead an army of 313 against 1000 infidels, highly interacting with others to lead followers to pass through all the hardships, high confidence to answerer the burning question of infidels and highly intelligent to unite every scattered tribe of Arabia.

*NO TRAITS OF CLUSTER A*

7. Now it’s fairly clear that Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) life doesn’t match the traits as its mentioned in Cluster A because we know that he enjoys close relationships, didn’t bear any grudges against another, highly mannered,  highly forgiving nature, didn’t bear suspicions for any other, highly understanding person and always think what was good for his people.

*NO TRAITS OF CLUSTER C*

8. Cluster C and our Prophet (P.B.U.H)’s life is for me opposite to each other, Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) was highly interactive, intelligent, never consider himself inferior to anybody, took part in all activities relating to the welfare of people, highly moral character, highly giving alms, always appreciated whatever someone do for him even if it is less in amount, highly motivating character, He did not rely on others but always did his work by himself.

*HONEST AND MAGNAIMOUS*

9. Darwin Dorr highlighted the common traits of a pedophile and a physcopath and he believed that pedophile is actually physcopathic predation. The ‘Zero state’ (as point out by Long, Wuesthoff, and Pitchers) he mentioned the feelings of worthlessness, futility, hopelessness and a belief that his feelings are transparent to others which leads to envy, criminal behaviors and a strong lust to have everything at the cause of harming others and this aggression leads to sexual predation. Now we know from history that our Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) during his prophet hood and youth remained honest and philanthropist unlike pedophiles who hate others especially children but our Prophet Muhammad love children. “Muhammad was admired for his courage, resoluteness, and impartiality and for firmness that was tempered by generosity. He won men’s hearts by his personal charm. He was gentle, especially with children. Though he was sometimes silent in thought, for the most part he was engaged in purposeful activity. He worked vigorously and spoke rapidly. He became for the later Muslims an example of virtuous character, and stories presented him as realizing the Islamic ideal of human life.” (Encyclopedia Britannica: Ed.15, 1988, pp. 4-5).  Muhammad (S.A.W) was the famous merchant of Arabia confident, optimistic, visionary, and highly respected in all tribes of Arabia. So it’s unfair to attribute such traits on his superb personality which weren’t present in the least.

*LOVED CHILDREN*

10.  Our Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) also doesn’t fit Mayer’s view of pedophile in which a child is seen as an object to play with, having no rights and honor. Allah's Messenger was particularly compassionate towards children. When he saw a child crying, he sat beside him or her and shared his or her feelings. He felt the pain of a mother for her child more than the mother herself. Once he said: “I stand in prayer and wish to prolong it. However, I hear the cry of a child and cut the prayer short for the anxiety which the mother is feeling.” (Al-Bukhari).He would take children in his arms and embrace them. He was once hugging his beloved grandsons, Hasan and Hussain, when Aqrah bin Haabis told him, ‘I have got ten children. So far, I have not kissed any of them.’ Allah’s Messenger responded: “The one with no pity for others is not pitied.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim).According to another version, he said:What can I do for you if Allah has removed from you the feeling of compassion?”(At-Tirmidhi).He pointed out they have difficulty in controlling anger, lust for power and dominance, low impulsivity, low frustrated tolerance, frustrated dependency, distrustful, himself molested as a child, unwilling to admit their mistakes, use of alcohol while abusing and low decision making as point out by Jerkins Hall. It is quite surprising that all those who alleged Muhammad (peace be upon him) as a pedophile do not bear an iota of sense. Our Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was the most gentle of Arabia and never got angry upon others even his greatest enemies praise his kindness and affection. Again I will say that we have no historical proof claiming that Prophet Muhammad (peace upon him) was molested when he was himself a child, he never had a lust for power and control neither on children nor over people, if he ever had, he could have given up the preaching of Islam when the Quresh offered him power and wealth. Before Islam, alcohol was permitted still our Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) never had a single drop of alcohol even before his prophet hood, although it was an accepted norm and culture of the Arabs to have alcohol. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was an excellent decision maker; the decisions made by him are unobjectionable by anyone. During the construction of Kabbah, tribes were fighting over the holy rock; the issue was that everybody wanted to place the rock in the Kabbah but could not reach a peaceful agreement. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) gave the suggestion that the rock should be placed on a sheet then a member from each tribe will come and everybody will lift the sheet all at once and place it in the Kabbah. This excellent decision increased the love for him in the hearts of the people and laid an everlasting impression.

*DOES NOT FIT DSM-IV CRITERIA FOR PEDOPHILE*

11. As you have seen above according to DSM-IV criteria a person should have 6 months or more recurring sexual urges in fantasies and dreams before he could be classified as a pedophile. Someone may say that Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was also dreaming about Ayesha (R.A) but I think somebody has missed the point here, He did not see a pedophilic dream  where he was molesting a child but Prophet dreamed that he saw a man who was carrying someone wrapped in a piece of silk. The man said to him: "This is thy wife, so uncover her." The Prophet lifted the silk and there was ‘Aisha but wait! Pedophilic dreams are ‘recurrent’ (until the sexual act is taken place as sexual release) but Muhammad (peace be upon him) saw this dream only once!!! .Now someone may say that may be he is lying (God forbid) for those who say this I want to make this very clear that He ‘never lied’, not only this he was from his early age famous for his truthfulness that even the Pagans called him ‘Sadiq’ means truthful. Secondly, if it was really a pedophilic urge why didn’t he choose Ayesha (R.A)? as he waited for almost 3 years so that she may mature completely for the consummation to take place which is impossible hard for a pedophile to wait as wants to do molest a child quickly and also if it was really a pedophilic dream he could have chosen some other small girl of Arabia other than Ayesha so that he may not have to wait for 3 years as pedophiles normally do they don’t want to wait for it. Also it is very strange that all pedophiles molest a child they don’t ‘marry’ the child. Was Ayesha (R.A) really a child? Ayesha herself said , “ When a girl reaches nine year of age, She is a woman.[Sunan al-Tirmidhi, Kitab al-Nikah]” But this is cannot be taken as a general rule and every nine year old girl cannot be married to anyone , Shariah has its rule which are formed under the light of both Quran and hadith which I also discussed here. The reason I narrated this is because I want to made it crystal clear to the critics that Ayesha (R.A) was completely a ‘mature girl’ and also the age of puberty varies with the region and it was an accepted norm in Arabia to for a mature man to marry a young girl and not only in Arabia but in Christian Europe also.  The second criteria is that there should some stress in work or in social context, we know that during his early days of Prophet hood the situation was critical but Muhammad (peace be upon him) was not an ordinary personality he had a firm control over his nerves and secondly he never had 'any pedophilic trait' in his life.

*NO LOWER LEVEL DEFENCES WERE FOUND*

12. Like physcopaths pedophiles have lower-level defenses e.g. splitting, primitive denial, rationalization, avoidance, and quasi-delusion. I have discussed avoidance and rationalization earlier as far as question of denial and quasi delusion is concerned. According to Mary Rowe, “These are people (with quasi-delusion) who have ideas which appear contrary to fact, and who in addition seem obsessed about these ideas.” (The Journal of the university & collegue ombuds association, Occasional paper number 1/fall 1994). It means they are unrealistic, their ideas are imaginary now if Muhammad (peace be upon him) had imaginary ideas which has nothing to do with reality then how come Islam become of the world’s most second largest religion? His teaching inspired people at that time and it’s still inspiring today. According to the report published in June 2004 by Colorado Sex offender Management board, “The offender’s denial and resistance to treatment may be weak or strong. The offender many move from a weaker level of denial to a stronger one or from a stronger level to a weaker one, depending upon a variety of internal and external events.”(pg.117, under the heading Appendix B, Level and Types of Denial). The types of denial show by sex offenders range from Level 1 to level 4. The report says, “Level 1 types of denial are weak and least resistant to change; level 4 types of denial are severe and most resistant to change; level 2 and level 3 are in between.” So what does this mean? It means that Pedophiles denies their actions but their denial varies, some admits with minimization about the action (offense) they had taken, some deny the offense but may admit engaging less harmful behaviors, some deny everything. Especially offenders falling under category of Level 3 and Level 4 show strong level of splitting, avoidance, denial and possibly disassociation. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) always took full responsibility of his action, if he did something he never denied it. It means he always spoke the truth and taught his followers to only speak the truth even if that goes against them.
  
*MUHAMMAD (PEACE BE UPON HIM AT BEHAVORAL LEVEL*

13. Lets judge the behavioral level as proposed by Millon's theory. In behavioral level, pedophile exhibit poor control over impulses and according to Marlatt (1989)'s concept of PIG pedophiles tend to hastily, to be shortsighted, incautious, imprudent, and ignorant of predictable consequences. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was out and out calm and peaceful, he never took hasty decision in his lifetime. He was visionary and highly intelligent though he never attended any school. He always took the right decision, once he had dreamed of circulating about the Kabbah, he told about this to his followers (sahabas), they agreed they would go to perform Hajj that year; at that time, Mekkah was under the control of the disbelievers. They did not allow him (peace be upon him) and sahabas (followers) to perform the Hajj but rather signed a 'peace treaty'; Many of the followers of sahabas were not happy with the decision of the Prophet but the time prove that its due to this treaty Islam gained so much penetration in Arabia without receiving any harm from the Quresh. Later, this decision which was initially seen as ‘defeat’ proved not only his visionary capabilities but also his inclination towards peace and tranquility. If he was hasty, short sighted and ignorant of the predictable consequences then he should have ordered his followers to fight the battle next year, besides his followers were already bothered by the Quresh’s refusal that they were not expecting a ‘peaceful pact’ with them which Prophet did.

*MUHAMMAD (PEACE BE UPON HIM) AT PHENOMENLOGICAL LEVEL*

14. At phenomenological level, pedophiles are disdainful to social norms and moral values and have distorted views regarding children; for those children are just toys of sex and pleasure. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was highly moral in character his source of morality does not come from culture but from human feelings and emotions. At pre-Islamic era and before the prophet hood, Arabs used to bury their daughters but Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) never liked this. He gave woman the right of inheritance and the dignity which she lost. Its indeed supervising that a person like Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) who hated this cultural norm of Arabia (to burry infant girls) can ever behave like a 'pedophile' (who really does not love children)? Well! Some critics really have to answer some burning question.

*MUHAMMAD (PEACE BE UPON HIM) AT INTRASPECIFIC LEVEL*

15. At intraspecific level, pedophile are unable to control their impulses they act on them without any feeling of guilt or remorse, constraint is rarely used to control negative emotions and feelings. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) never had such impulses as I have discussed above in great detail, he was perfect both in behavior and in character.

*MUHAMMAD (PEACE BE UPON HIM) AT BIOPHYSICAL LEVEL*

16. Biophysical level does not directly addresses a pedophile but it can be argued that by definition pedophiles are deficient in social charitableness as well as in compassion and remorse for the act whereas Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was altruist; it’s in the record of history that no beggar ever went from his house with empty hands. He (peace be upon him) never refuse anyone, he never liked to live luxurious live, throughout his life he lead a simple and contented life. If he received something as a gift, he distributed it among the poor and needy.
So far was my research, now the text below is taken from the book ‘Islamophoes’s glass house, refuting the charge ‘Muhammad (peace be upon him) was a pedophile, by Ibn-ul-Hashmi. You can download this marvelous by either clicking this site http://www.islamic-life.com/forums/quran-hadith-prophet-muhammad/book-refuting-islamaphobes-claim-prophet-muhammad-pedophile-1441 or Just type the name of the book in google search bar. The book addressed little on the psychology of pedophilia so I just expanded his work. The text below is taken from his book as well as my replies to allegation which are normally found in Islamophobes website and which are not present in his book.

*MUHAMMAD (PEACE BE UPON HIM) & AYESHA (R.A) MARRIAGE*
1. A SOCIO-POLITICAL MARRIAGE: So why Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) did marry Ayesha (R.A)? In old days, marriages were also seen as a source of strengthening relationships and cementing ties. A book The Royal Bastards of Medieval England says, "Laymen in medieval Europe saw marriage as the key to both property transfer and political alliance...If the son of one house married the daughter of another house it was a visible sign of alliance between the two houses...This political aspect of marriage explains why betrothal was so important in the Middle Ages: the betrothal indicated that the diplomatic agreements which underlay the union had been concluded..." but this was in not only practiced in medieval ages but also thousands of years back. The marriage of Prophet Muhammad was also a socio-political, Sir William Muir writes about Prophet Muhammad’s marriage to Aisha:"He [Muhammad] contracted a second marriage with Ayesha, the young daughter of Abu Bakr—a connection mainly designed to cement the attachment with his bosom-friend [Abu Bakr]."(Sir William Muir’s The Life of Mahomet, p.208). Washington Irving wrote:"He [Muhammad] sought, by this alliance, to grapple Abu Bekr still more strongly to his side."(Washington Irving’sLife of Muhammad). Ayesha (R.A) was the daughter of Abu-bakar (R.A), the first khalifa of Islam but Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) also married Hafsa (R.A) a widowed daughter of Umer (R.A), the second khalifa of Islam, thus the marriage of Ayesha (R.A) with Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was due to socio-political reasons not for satisfying any kind of pedophilic desires.

2. NOBEL WOMEN MARRIED EARLY: In old days, noble women married early in their ages. In the article “Medieval Marriage and Childbirth”, we find that noblewomen of Europe were routinely married off under the age of ten: For many noble-born or royal women [of Europe], marriage could and often did take place at a young age. There are many instances or very young girls being betrothed andmarried under the age of 10 years old. (Women of History,http://womenofhistory.blogspot.com/2007/08/medievalmarriage-childbirth.html) but this was not just limited medieval ages, it was also practiced long time ago and Ayesha (R.A) was the daughter of nobleman of Arabia Abu-bakar (R.A).

3. HAD MUHAMMAD (PEACE BE UPON HIM) LUST FOR AYESHA (R.A)? : Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) never had lust of marrying Ayesha (R.A), It is narrated in Musnad Ahmad that the name of Aisha was first proposed to Prophet Muhammad by a woman named Khaulah. This proves two points: firstly, had the marriage been considered pedophilia, and then certainly a woman would not have proposed the idea. Khaulah certainly saw nothing amiss about the marriage. The second point—of great importance here—is that Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) did not himself bring up Aisha’s name, so there is no question about any pedophilic desires. Rather, someone else brought up her name and most likely due to the fact that she had just lost her fiancé. What a loss Abu Bakr must have felt when his daughter’s betrothal was broken off. And so, Prophet Muhammad offered to marry Aisha himself, and how elated Abu Bakr must have been! It was just a coincidence that her daughter was six years old when she was betrothed to Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). If Muhammad (peace be upon him) had lust for children then he could have abandoned her after few years as all pedophiles do after the child has passed their preferred age. Dr.Estela V Weldon remarked, “This is evident when the specific child reaches an age, no longer within the preferential rang, will be immediately discarded and replaced by another one of the ‘the’ particular favorite age.” If Muhammad (peace be upon him) was a pedophile then why did he wait for Ayesha (R.A) for three years as pedophiles work hard to fight all barriers just to satisfy their abnormal sexual desire? She also remarked, “If the patient practices pedophilia, he or she will claim to have no option and that no amount of threat or legal injunction will prevent him or her from engaging in the perverse activity.” Although Ayesha was a young virgin and beautiful girl still her beauty and charm wasn’t able to fade away the unbounded love which Mohammad (peace be upon him) had for her first 40 year old wife khadija. Narrated 'Aisha: Once Hala bint Khuwailid, Khadija's sister, asked the permission of the Prophet to enter. On that, the Prophet remembered the way Khadija used to ask permission, and that upset him. He said, "O Allah! Hala!" So I became jealous and said, "What makes you remember an old woman amongst the old women of Quraish an old woman (with a teethless mouth) of red gums who died long ago, and in whose place Allah has given you somebody better than her?"  (Sahih Al-bukhari Vol.5, book58, hadith 168)


4. WAS AYESHA (R.A) READY FOR MARRIAGE? : Islamophobes criticized that Ayesha (R.A) was immature and married early before she could attain maturity. It’s the general consensus between the Islamic scholars that Ayesha (R.A) had reached her sexual maturity and that is why Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) waited three years till she became sexually mature. If he had to molest her, he could have done those three years before. Although, it looks a bit odd that a nine year old girl was married to an adult like Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) but this was thousands of years of ago when such marriages were a part of culture and if it was something 'bad' then people like Abu-jahal and other enemies of prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) would have use this polemic against him. After all, these idolaters left no stone unturned in their insults to Muhammad (peace be upon him) and criticize each and every action taken by him but they never criticize this act a single time, why? Because it was a cultural norm and there were many examples of young brides other than Ayesha (R.A).There are countless examples of young brides in those days, such as Umm Kulthoom bint Ali, Fatima bint al-Mundhir, Bint `Izz al-Dawla Bakhtyar, and many others! Interestingly, the Christian missionaries during the middle Ages never used this polemic against the Prophet. We find that they would oftentimes accuse Prophet Muhammad of being a polygamist but never did they refer to him as a pedophile or anything of that sort. It was only in the post-industrial era that the Christians began slandering the Prophet for his marriage to Aisha, forgetting the reality that their own Christian history is full of their prophets, kings, nobles, and saints who would marry young brides of the same age as Aisha. Besides, Ayesha herself said, “When a girl reaches nine year of age, She is a woman. [Sunan al-Tirmidhi, Kitab al-Nikah]”. So Ayesha (R.A) was sexually mature or at least for her it’s true because girls living in hot areas mature early than girls living at cold areas.

5. AYESHA(R.A)'S DOLLS: Islamophobes state that Ayesha (R.A) brought dolls when she joined Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) which is true but this does not prove that she was immature. In early days, there was no MTV, shopping malls, mp3 player and other accessories as we have today so girls at that time both adult and immature play with dolls as those girls normally do not go to work thousand years back; they have to take care of the house and circumscribed in a single house made them bored so just to refresh themselves they play with dolls. This does not prove that she was immature. In fact, many teenage girls love to receive which we called 'stuffed animals' today. In fact, a recent survey carried out by Travelodge and published in Sky News showed that 15% of adult women sleep with their teddy bears. (http://www.ananova.com/news/story/sm_2240697.html).  One reference website states: "The toy dolls that existed before the 1700's served chiefly as playthings for adults as well as for children…The first dolls specifically for children probably were made in the 1700's."(How Stuff Works,http://reference.howstuffworks.com/doll-encyclopedia.htm). An anti Islamic website tried to prove that Ayesha (R.A) was pre-pubertal by giving the argument that in Islam post-pubertal girls are not allowed to play with dolls but pre-pubertal girls are exempted from it but Ayesha (R.A) moved to Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)'s house when she had dolls with her, this proves that she was pre-pubertal. Well! This argument is weak but first readers must know that Shariah laws are derived from Quran and Sunnah, from both sources there is no clear order that post-pubertal girls are not allowed to play with dolls. Actually there is a hadith in which Muhammad (peace be upon him) forbade Muslims to make grave images. However, we have another hadith in which Ayesha (R.A) was playing with dolls and Muhammad (peace upon him) did not rebuke her for that. So how to reconcile with two events, actually there is a difference of views regarding this and one of the view is that 'She was pre-pubertal' but like I said it’s just one view there are more views regarding this and Ibn Hajar himself gave numerous views regarding this; It could probably because Image making was forbidden only after the hadith in which Ayesha (R.A) played with dolls,  Aisha (R.A) 's dolls did not resemble any human or animal as dolls on those days were mainly made of wool as it confirmed by the hadith "We used to make toys of wool for the boys, and if anyone of them cried, he was given those toys until it was time of the breaking of the fast."(Bukhari, Volume 3, Book 31, Number 181), even Shaykh Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari said: "If the dolls do not have a head, meaning they do not have eyes, ears, nose, and mouth which make them incomplete, then it will be permissible to make them…It has been narrated from Ibn Abbas, Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with them) and others, that a picture without a head is not a picture, thus permissible…The dolls which Aisha (Allah be pleased with her) played with was not of the type we have today" and the third is that she was pre-pubteral and Ibn-Hahar himself said that the third opinion is seriously 'questionable' even if we agree that she was pre-pubertal its Ibn-Hajar was not meaning that she was sexually immature but rather pre-menarche since in Islam 'puberty' has two meanings 'sexual maturity' and 'age of accountability', for intercourse first condition should be fulfilled and for other usage such as prayer menses applies and Ibn-hajar was using the second meaning of puberty. Even if someone say that this is the age of accountability then still it can be proven that she was still post-pubertal. Islamic Scholars agreed by consensus (Ijma) that a girl reaches the age of accountability if one of the condition fulfills when she reach 15 year of age,  growth of hair around private parts, she starts menstruate, when she emits mainy. Only one of the four conditions needs to be met in order for a person to be considered “post-pubertal” (baligh) according to Islamic Law (Shariah).  Now I shall prove that she was not pre-pubertal and thus was not exempted from the prohibition of sculptures. To prove Ayesha pre-pubeteral, the website gave the following hadith,  "When the Messenger of God (peace be upon him) arrived after the expedition to Tabuk or Khaybar (the narrator is doubtful), the draught raised an end of a curtain which was hung in front of her (Aisha’s) store-room, revealing some dolls which belonged to her. He (the Messenger of God) asked: “What is this?” She replied: “My dolls.” …"(Sunan Abu Dawood, Book 41, and Number 4914).  We know about the history of the battle of Tabuk, it took place at 9 A.H and the marriage was consummated on 1 A.H when she was nine years old it means she was almost seventeen, it means that she was post-pubertal. The battle of Khaybar took place two years before i.e. 7 A.H so her age would be around fourteen but still she may have had her pubarche (which is also the condition for the age of accountability) since the average age of that is eleven. More importantly, an overwhelming 97% of girls reach pubarche by thirteen years of age. We read:
"Delayed Puberty…What’s normal? Approximate mean ages for onset of various pubertal changes are as follows. Ages in parentheses are the approximate 3rd and 97th percentiles for attainment. For example, less than 3% of girls have not yet achieved thelarche by 13 years of age"Pubarche 11y 8.5-13.5y)  (http://www.economicexpert.com/a/Delayed:puberty.html). It is much more likely than that Aisha was playing with dolls without distinct facial features, and as such, she was not in violation of any prohibition. Even if we say that certain dolls are forbidden to post-pubertal girls, Aisha’s dolls were not of that type, evidenced by the fact that she played with them when she was most definitely postpubertal.We leave it to the Islamaphobes to deny an overwhelming 97% probability. There is only a 50% chance that the event took place at Khaybar instead of Tabuk, meaning that the Islamaphobes are holding onto a 1.5% possibility that Aisha was prepubertal at the time. (Simple arithmetic: 50% chance it was Khaybar, and 3% chance she had not reached pubarche, so 0.5x0.03=0.015).

6. MUHAMMAD (PEACE BE UPON HIM) DREAMING ABOUT AYESHA (R.A):Aa'ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to her: "You were shown to me twice in a dream. I saw that you were wrapped in a piece of silk, and it was said, this is your wife.' I uncovered her and saw that it was you. I said, if this is from Allah then it welcome to pass.'" (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, no. 3682). As to whether this is a prophetic vision as it appears to be, or a regular dream that may be subject to interpretation, there was a difference of opinion among the scholars, as mentioned by al-Haafiz in Fath al-Baari, 9/181). Besides, pedophilic dream is a sexual dream where the pedophile is molesting a child or his victim but it should also be noted that Muhammad (peace be upon him) did not have any trait of pedophilia so how come this is a pedophilic dream? Also, if he was to molest a child why did he wait for Ayesha (R.A) to become sexually mature? He could have married some other young girl.

7. DID AYESHA (R.A) EVER BEHAVED LIKE VICTIMS OF PEDOPHILE DO? : First I want to inform everybody that behaviors of sexual abuse varies from child to child but I will examine all possible behaviors and we will In shaa Allah that Ayesha (R.A) never showed such behaviors. According to a website www.childabuseeffects.com a molested child suffer many losses such as self-esteem and self worth, trust, childhood including the opportunity to play and learn, intimacy, control over his or her body, safety and security. Behavioral effects arenightmares, phobias, and regressive behaviors such as thumb-sucking and bed-wetting,  learning problems, clinging and smothering, insecurity, which put the child at risk for further abuse and exploitation, psychosomatic complaints such as stomachaches and headaches, precocious sexual activity--a young child knows more than they should about sexual activity; child may exhibit seductive behavior, aggression and bullying behaviors, with young children, a preoccupation with sexual organs of self, parents and others--often this shows itself in language and art, sudden changes in eating and/or sleeping habits, depression and anxiety,isolation, obsessively good behavior, anti-social behavior, unwillingness to participate in social activities, running away, long absence from participation in extracurricular activities, risky behaviors such as fire starting, stealing and other delinquencies, animal cruelty, alcohol and drug abuse and in short the person is disturbed, avoiding and uncultured. Ayesha (R.A) remained loyal to the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) till her death, she was the most important woman in the history of Islam and she narrated more than a thousand saying of the Prophet (peace be upon him), she is the teacher of many great scholars of her time. She was so happy with the marriage such that she often boasts about it. Will a molested child ever boast about his/her abuse?

8. DID BURAIRA CONSIDERED AYESHA (R.A) IMMATURE? : An Islamophobic website put forward the following hadith to prove that Ayesha was immature girl.Buraira said: “I cannot accuse her of any defect except that she is still a young girl who sleeps (on the job), neglecting her family’s dough which the domestic goats come to eat.” (Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 3, Book 48, Number 805). In fact, this is an incorrect translation; nowhere does the text say that Aisha (peace be upon her) was immature. Rather, the Arabic text merely says that Aisha (peace be upon her) was young. Bassam Zawadi explains:”Looking at the Arabic text, I don’t see (the) word ‘immature’ anywhere! It only states that she is a young girl, which we already know. But if someone is young, that does not necessarily imply that he or she is immature. Secondly, the Companion [Buraira] was not criticizing Aisha for her age. Rather,
He was saying that her fault was that she “goes to sleep while kneading the flour…” The Companion might have attributed her carelessness due to the fact that she was young and did not take seriously her responsibility over her tasks. However, this does not imply she was immature or psychologically incapable of being married”.  

9. DID AYESHA (R.A) SHOW SIGNS OF PUBERTY? Narrated Aisha:The Prophet engaged me when I was a girl of six (years). We went to Medina and stayed at the home of Bani-al-Harith bin KhazrajThen I got ill and my hair fell down. Later on my hair grew (again) and my mother, Um Ruman, came to me while I was playing in a swing with some of my girl friends. She called me, and I went to her, not knowing what she wanted to do to me.......” (Sahih Bukhari Volume 5, Book 58, Number 234). According to www.medic8.comThe menopause isn’t the only time in your life when you will experience hair loss. Hair loss also occurs during puberty and pregnancy as a result of hormonal changes taking place in your body. (http://www.medic8.com/healthguide/hair-loss/female-hair-loss/menopause.html). So you see, she was sexually getting matured and this why Prophet (peace be upon him) waited for three years. Another site claimsyou may get PMS. PMS or "premenstrual syndrome" is a group of changes you may see and feel before your period. You may have headaches, dizziness, or feel sick to your stomach before your period. You may feel like crying more, feel a little sad, and feel more emotional about everything. PMS may cause you to retain (hold onto) water. Retaining water means that your body tries to keep more body fluid in before and during your period. This may make your breasts tender and cause you to feel bloated, restless, or grumpy. According tohttp://www.realsexedfacts.com/puberty.html , On average white, North American girls begin puberty between 9 and 13 years old and boys between 11 and 14 years old. It is important that children understand what “average” means. In simple terms, if you took all the girls in the world, for instance, most of them would experience the first signs of puberty between 9 and 13 years old but many would begin before 9 and many would begin after 13 and this would be normal for their bodies.Through many worldwide studies, onset of puberty varies with race, ethnicity, environmental conditions, geographical location and nutrition. On average, African-American girls show begin puberty about one year earlier with 48% having shown breast and/or pubic hair growth by 8 years old. On average boys begin puberty between 11 and 14 years of age, approximately two years after girls. A common misperception about onset of puberty is what sign(s) signify its beginning. Often the first menses or period for girls and the ability to ejaculate in boys are the signs are noted as the signs of puberty. Although obviously important, pubertal changes start at least one to two years prior to these signs in both boys and girls. A growth spurt, pubic hair growth and breast growth (in girls) most often are the earliest signs.”

10. SHOULD MUHAMMAD (PEACE UPON HIM)’S MARRIAGE WITH AYESHA (R.A) BE HELD RESPONSIBLE? : An Islamophobic website claimed that according to UNICEF mothers suffering from diseases that result due to early pregnancy in North Africa and Middle East is due to Islamic tradition of marrying young girls. This has a problem because on the same Islamophobic website the report claimed, “….Every social grouping in the world has specific traditional cultural practices and beliefs, some of which are beneficial to all members, while others are harmful to a specific group, such as women….” In Islam, it’s not necessary that a girl should be married off as soon as she gets her first period but rather when she become ‘sexually matured’ and besides these marriages are not done to copy Muhammad (peace be upon him) but to settle their own issues of power, money and family disputes. According to a 2006 report by the UN Special Reporter on Violence against Women on her mission to Afghanistan, an estimated 57 per cent of girls in Afghanistan are married before the age of 16. Economic reasons are said to play a significant role in such marriages. Due to the common practice of “bride money,” the girl child becomes an asset exchangeable for money or goods. Families see committing a young daughter (or sister) to a family that is able to pay a high price for the bride as a viable solution to their poverty and indebtedness...Yes, I admit that ‘forced marriages’ are becoming common in Muslim world but this does not mean that Islam encourages forced marriages. These marriages are merely done to protect family name or security of wealth. The Quran declares you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will! Nor should you treat them with harshness… (Quran, 4:19). Aisha herself (!!!) says: I asked God’s Messenger about a virgin whose marriage is solemnized by her guardian, whether it was necessary or not to consult her. God’s Messenger said:
“Yes, she must be consulted!”(Sahih al-Bukhari, Book 8, Number 3305). Shaykh Ali Badahdah stated:
“Though a child must generally obey his or her parents, this obedience does not extend to marrying an unwanted partner in life. Islamic Law permits a son or daughter to refuse entering into any marriage he or she is displeased with, no matter what their reason for refusing might be…” In the case of a girl being forced into marriage, she has the right to have the marriage annulled.” One of the Prophet’s disciples, Buraydah, narrated that:
Once, a woman came to the Prophet and said: “O Messenger of God, my father married me to my cousin in order to raise his social standing, but I do not want to be married to him.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) gave her the option of annulment. At this point in time, she said: “I have already reconciled myself to my father’s decision, but I wanted it to be known that women have a say in the matter.”(Sunan an-Nasa’i #3629, Sunan Ibn Majah #1874, and Musnad Ahmad #25043). In Islam, it’s the duty of the husband to provide his wife with all necessities of life including education but we see that in ‘today’s forced marriages’ which Islamophobes attribute it to Islam because the family remembers are trying to hide their ‘false intentions’ under the shroud of Islam, young brides are deprived of basic education and other necessities of life. Besides, Muhammad (peace is upon him) married Ayesha (R.A) provided every necessity of life to Ayesha (R.A) though his economic condition was not that strong but unlike early marriages which end up in either suicide or divorce, Ayesha (R.A) remained loyal to him till his death and she also sometimes boast about his marriage with the Prophet. This shows how successful the marriage was.

11. WAS AYESHA (R.A) PRE-PUBERTAL OR POST-PUBERTEAL: Well! This statement can be either true or false if we take the first meaning of ‘post-pubertal’ (baligh) to be ‘post-menarchal’ (after the onset of puberty) then certainly we don’t have any proof regarding this that she was ‘post-menarchal’ since none of the hadith talks about it but a critic should not become happy since we also cannot deny that she was not ‘post-menarchal’. Yet, if we take the first meaning that talks about ‘sexual maturity’ then certainly Ayesha (R.A) had reached that age and that is why Muhammad (peace be upon him) had to wait for such a long time, if he had not cared about her safety then nothing was stopping him to consummate the marriage in those three or four years. Western audiences should only be indignant if the girl was harmed, yet Aisha (peace be upon him) was not harmed in anywhatsoever; so it is a non-issue. Secondly, it was a cultural norm to marry young girls who reach puberty quite early and those norms should not judge according to today’s standards since time and values were quite different in those days e.g. not taking bath for a month was not something to worry about those daysIn fact, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) commanded his followers to shower at least once a week. Only once a week, you say! Back then, this was considered a lot and the Prophet’s command to shower once a week made the Muslims the cleanest of people in Arabia. The matter was no different in Europe; in fact, the Muslims are the ones who introduced soap to the Europeans, who had hitherto never used it. By today’s standards, someone who does not shower for an entire week is considered “gross”. Yet, back in those days, once a week with soap would put the person in the finicky clean category. Just as showering once a week or even once a month was business as usual, so too was marrying young girls.

12. ANSWERING THE ALLEGATIONS REGARDING EARLY MARRIAGES IN ISLAM: It can be divided into following parts:

Claim 1: Very low age of consent: Critics claim that Islam had very low age of consent. The critics have no knowledge according to me about the history. In early times, the average life expectancy ranged from 25-30 and also the child death rate was at its peak. In the 8th century, it was necessary for each fertile wife to have at least 8 children to maintain the population. Also sexual attraction accompanies with puberty. Marriages as early as 7 which was considered as age of reason or directly after puberty was the norm of vast majority of people around the world even in the 19th century. 1300 years of ago, Ayesha was ‘9’, two years older than the age of consent. The delay of puberty after industrialization does not disapprove the concept of ‘early marriage’ but rather it was an abnormal result of poor sanitation, lack of exercise and vast distribution of cheap cereals and diets.

Claim 2: Islam allowed psychological harm because puberty was too low to give informed consent: Due to ‘environmental stresses’ e.g. physical and economical survival, it speeded puberty as well as psychological maturity. "In the 17th century...children rapidly evolved into adulthood. In the words of the historian John Demos, 'the seventeenth century had no real word for the period of life between puberty and full manhood.' In fact, as noted in 'Colonial America', well bred children were supposed to both behave and look like small adults."(William Faulkner, a twentieth- century American novelist once wrote, The past is not dead, Sep 2004) It was during the mid of 18th century that psychological maturity started to delay due to lack of exercise, increased luxury etc. “The old family pattern was inexorably disrupted by the rise of the industrial state. Children were no longer kept at home to share in the work and be economic assets but left for school or for nonfamily employment...”(sexual behaviour, human Encyclopedia Britannica, 2008)

Claim 3: Islam allowed sexual and psychological harm: This attack cites a UNFPA study, but conceals that the study was for 2 contemporary impoverished nations. It said, Almost all of these deaths are preventable. UNFPA trains skilled birth attendants and establishes reliable transportation to medical facilities--the most effective ways to reduce maternal mortality in remote areas.The International Journal of Epidemiology states “studies implicate poverty, not maternal age, as the real threat to maternal and infant welfare”. In premodern times, the high risk of childbirth, due to lack of medical knowledge and hygiene, affected all women regardless of age. In fact, early procreation was a genetically superior trait for population growth in pre-modern times for 2 reasons:
1) Women who have puberty earlier have children who grow up faster and weigh more. A combination of genetic and behavioral factors explains why women who undergo puberty early appear to have children who grow faster and weigh more. Mothers may pass on genes that cause swift development, he explains. By the same token, they may pass on eating habits that prime the body for early maturation.(“Mother's early puberty boosts child's obesity risk”, 24 April 2007, NewScientist.com, Roxanne Khamsi)  
2) “Life history theory” states that in a less stable environment, “natural selection will favor individuals that reproduce earlier...within a population”. As a result, early procreation was not harmful, but beneficial to newborns and genetics. Populations in which individuals reproduce at an early age have the potential to grow much faster than populations in which individuals reproduce later. (population ecologyEncyclopedia Britannica, 2008)

Claim 4: Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) forced Abu Bakar for Ayeshas hand: This claim is baseless and contradictory to the facts because:
1. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) did not initiate the engagement. It was Khawala who suggested the name of Ayesha as companions feared the death of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) after the death of Kadija (R.A). “The Prophet (peace be upon him) pained for Khadijah’s (death) to the point they feared for him (to die), until he married Aisha.” (“Al Isabah” by Ibn Hajar, “Al Bidayah wal Nihayah” by Ibn Kathir)
2. The Prophet did not approach Abu Bakr directly, rather, using the applicable etiquette, he replied to Khawla's suggestion: "So go, and mention me to them.”
3. Abu Bakr’s question to Khawla “Is she good for him? She is his brother’s daughter” was not an objection, rather, a question due to the pre-Islamic norm that assigned blood ties which do not actually exist, such as in adoption. The Prophet corrected this false notion through Khawla.
4. If Abu Bakr had any hesitation, he would simply have used the acceptable justification that she was already engaged, but instead he told Khawla to “Wait” and went immediately to request permission from Aisha’s previous fiancé. More importantly, even the consummation itself was urged by Abu Bakr, which disproves any reluctance from his side. Lady Aisha narrated: “Abu Bakr told him ‘What prevents you from consummating with your wife?’ So he consummated (our marriage)“(Ibn Hajar (in “Fathul Bari”) and Al Tabaraani). Abu Bakar was famous to be called as ‘Shafaaqa’ which means a compassionate father, thus this established that marriage had taken place as it happens normally.

Claim 5: Ayesha did not consent to the marriage: This is another baseless claim. We know from history that she was quite happy with the marriage, so happy that she boasted about it sometime. “Ibn SA’d said: Aisha said (in appreciation): ‘I have been given features not given to any woman. The Prophet (peace be upon him) married me when I was seven, the angel brought him my image in his hand to look at it, he consummated our marriage when I was nine, I saw the angel Gabriel, I was his most beloved wife, and I attended his diseased till he died, not witnessed but by me and the angels’.” (al Isabah fi Tamyeez al Sahabah (The correct differentiation between the Companions”, Ibn Hajar).This shows how happy she was, with the marriage.

Claim 6: Muhammad (peace be upon him) invented Islam to satisfy his sexual desires: Muhammad (peace be upon him) did not have to invent Islam to satisfy his sexual desire. Judaism and Christianity had laws allowing vast sexual aberrations. Arabs themselves were very obsessed with fornication before Islam. So he did need to invent Islam, he just have to simply be the part of those cultures and religions. For example,
(a) “It was taught: R. Simeon b. Yohai stated: A proselyte who is under the age of three years and one day is permitted to marry a priest, for it is said, But all the women children that have not known man by lying with him, keep alive for yourselves, and Phinehas surely was with them. And the Rabbis? — [These were kept alive] as bondmen and bondwomen. If so, a proselyte whose age is three years and one day should also be permitted!"(Babylonian Talmud: Tractate Yebamoth 60b )
(b) Prostitution and pederasty were cherished from the Greeks up until the 15thcentury Roman Byzantine society.
(c) Arab and Jewish people could marry an unlimited number of simultaneous wives.
Therefore, to satisfy abnormal sexual desires in 7th century Arabia, no new religion was needed: all one had to do was taking his pick from the existing religions and norms. In contrast, Islam protected people from these shameful laws.

Claim 7: Muhammad (peace be upon him) stressed his followers to marry immature girls: Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah: While we were returning from a Ghazwa (Holy Battle) with the Prophet, I started driving my camel fast, as it was a lazy camel A rider came behind me and pricked my camel with a spear he had with him, and then my camel started running as fast as the best camel you may see. Behold! The rider was the Prophet himself. He said, 'What makes you in such a hurry?" I replied, I am newly married “He said, "Did you marry a virgin or a matron? I replied, "A matron." He said, "Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you may play with her and she with you?Now this argument is weak one because nowhere did the Prophet actually scold him for marrying a marton. It was just a suggestion and this is the one reference according to other narration regarding the same event, when we approached Medina, I started going (towards my house). The Prophet said, "Where are you going?"I Sad, "I have married a widow." He said, "Why have you not married a virgin to fondle with each other?" I said, "My father died and left daughters, so I decided to marry a widow (an experienced woman) (to look after them)." He said, "Well done." When we reached Medina, Allah's Apostle said, "O Bilal, pay him (the price of the camel) and give him extra money." Bilal gave me four Dinars and one Qirat extra. (A sub-narrator said): Jabir added, "The extra Qirat of Allah's Apostle never parted from me." The Qirat was always in Jabir bin 'Abdullah's purse (Sahih Bukhari Volume 3, Book 38, Number 504:)In this narration, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was seems to be very pleased with his marriage and not only this he also gave him some money. This is not an issue, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was just inquiring about the action of Jabir bin’ Abdullah, he was not ‘criticizing’ his marriage besides, he said,” Why didn’t you marry a young girl” not Why didn’t you marry animmature girl. If I asked to my friend that why didn’t you buy a Mercedes instead of Ferrari? does not mean that I am saying that none should buy Mercedes but rather just inquiring him about his action and giving my suggestion, after all giving suggestions is everybody’s right.

Claim 8: Muhammad (peace be upon him) was already in his 50s when he married Ayesha: Critics like David Wood on refuting Muslims defense of marrying Ayesha to be actually the result of cultural norm says, Abdullah’s claim might make sense if Muhammad had been nine or ten years old when he married Aisha. But the Prophet of Islam was already well advanced in years. He was far closer to death than any young woman he might marry, so why not marry a young woman instead of a young girl? Why not marry a fully developed twenty-year-old instead of a little girl playing on a swing?”Although people die early in those days but what everybody can’t see is thatMuhammad (peace be upon him) also married 40 year old widow when he was in his 20s but when he married Ayesha who had become a ‘woman’ at that time. Yes! A woman, we are talking about 1400 years ago when times were quite different and we have learned from previous claims that ‘external factors’ effect puberty. Although it’s hard to perceive in these days but it was a fact in their time. Besides, Ayesha herself admitted that she was a woman. A girl playing on a swing does not have to me ‘immature’, if anyone of you happens to visit Pakistan’s rural areas, you will find unmarried of girls of about ‘24’ years of age  playing on swings. It is just a source of enjoyment.

Claim 9: Muhammad (peace be upon him) used to beat Ayesha (R.A): Another more interesting comment is that Muhammad used to beat Ayesha and the reference they give is also indeed surprising. This is what they say, He also hit his favorite wife Aisha’s chest until the pain” (Sahih Muslim, book 04,number2127) , It looks that somebody trying to say that He constantly beat Ayesha until he get the satisfaction that she had felt enough pain. Let’s we look at the event, Muhammad b. Qais said (to the people): Should I not narrate to you (a hadith of the Holy Prophet) on my authority and on the authority of my mother? We thought that he meant the mother who had given him birth. He (Muhammad b. Qais) then reported that it was 'A'isha who had narrated this: Should I not narrate to you about myself and about the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him)? We said: Yes. She said: When it was my turn for Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) to spend the night with me, he turned his side, put on his mantle and took off his shoes and placed them near his feet, and spread the corner of his shawl on his bed and then lay down till he thought that I had gone to sleep. He took hold of his mantle slowly and put on the shoes slowly, and opened the door and went out and then closed it lightly. I covered my head, put on my veil and tightened my waist wrapper, and then went out following his steps till he reached Baqi'. He stood there and he stood for a long time. He then lifted his hands three times, and then returned and I also returned. He hastened his steps and I also hastened my steps. He ran and I too ran. He came (to the house) and I also came (to the house). I, however, preceded him and I entered (the house), and as I lay down in the bed, he (the Holy Prophet) entered the (house), and said: Why is it, O 'A'isha, that you are out of breath? I said: There is nothing. He said: Tell me or the Subtle and the Aware would inform me. I said: Messenger of Allah, may my father and mother be ransom for you, and then I told him (the whole story). He said: Was it the darkness (of your shadow) that I saw in front of me? I said: Yes. He struck me on the chest which caused me pain, and then said: Did you think that Allah and His Apostle would deal unjustly with you? She said: Whatsoever the people conceal, Allah will know it. He said: Gabriel came to me when you saw me. He called me and he concealed it from you. I responded to his call, but I too concealed it from you (for he did not come to you), as you were not fully dressed. I thought that you had gone to sleep, and I did not like to awaken you, fearing that you may be frightened. He (Gabriel) said: Your Lord has commanded you to go to the inhabitants of Baqi' (to those lying in the graves) and beg pardon for them. I said: Messenger of Allah, how should I pray for them (How should I beg forgiveness for them) ? He said: Say, Peace be upon the inhabitants of this city (graveyard) from among the Believers and the Muslims, and may Allah have mercy on those who have gone ahead of us, and those who come later on, and we shall, God willing, join you. Well, this beating isn’t of that kind in which men beat their wives with a base ball bat or any other weapon which they found in the house but rather it’s a ‘love beat’ and all men do it when they saw that their women don’t want to lose them or ‘leave them’, this suspicion is the love she has for her man and majority of man when see this behavior ‘hit them softly’ like on the back or the front or sometimes at her arm to show that he is too faithful towards her. So how can I say that? Simple if the blow was hard, Ayesha could have fell on the floor or simply just cried but no sign of sorrow is reflected from her side. Dr. Barnett said, batterers often feel justified in battering because they were reared in an environment -- whether a family or neighborhood -- where violence was accepted as a proper method for solving problems or enforcing the rules. Between 40% and 70% of batterers in clinical samples have been exposed to abuse in childhood” but Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was brought up in the best custody of his uncle Abu Talib and he never raised his hand against anyone before he was made Prophet although the common practice in tribes was to use force to settle disputes however Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) abolished this and made them brothers, such a man will prevent woman from receiving any heritance but our Prophet gave the right of inheritance to woman. How can a man making peace between the tribes and himself beating or mistreating his wives? This doesn’t add up and in fact even I sometimes give ‘love beat’ to my brother too when he does something for me, sometimes on the chest and sometimes on the back , although he feel a little pain but that’s not the pain of hatred but of love.
Claim 10: Muhammad’s (peace be upon him) cross dressed Ayesha (R.A): This is one of the most interesting claims and one of the weakest too. Let us see what critics have to say regarding this, Narrated by Ismail, narrated by his brother, narrated by Sulaiman, narrated by Hisham Ibn Urwah, narrated by his father, narrated by Aisha who related that the wives of the prophet were divided into two groups. One group consisted of Aisha, Hafsa, Safiya and Sawdah while the other group consisted of Um Salamah and the rest of the women that belonged to the prophet. The Muslims had learned of the great love that the prophet had for Aisha so that if one of them had a gift he desired to give to the prophet, he would delay giving it until the prophet came to Aisha’s house. Then the group who sided with Um Salamah came to Um Salamah and asked her to tell the prophet that he should command the people that if any of them had a gift to give to the prophet, they should give it him in whatever house of his wives the prophet was in at the time. So Um Salamah went and talked with the prophet but he did not respond to her. When the group asked her what the prophet said she told them that he did not respond. So they asked her to go talk to him again until he responds… then the prophet said to her, “Do not hurt me with Aisha, for the inspiration did not come upon when I was (wearing) A WOMAN’S CLOTHES (Thowb) EXCEPT THAT OF AISHA.” Actual wording of the Hadith:1- This is a long Hadith. Arabic wording for the last portion he uses to slander goes as;
لَا تُؤْذِينِي فِي عَائِشَةَ فَإِنَّ الْوَحْيَ لَمْ يَأْتِنِي وَأَنَا فِي ثَوْبِ امْرَأَةٍ إِلَّا عَائِشَةَ
Its correct literal translation has to be:"Do not hurt me regarding Aisha, as the Divine Inspirations do not come to me when I am in the [thowb] cloth (i.e. blanket) of any of wives except [in that of] Aisha.” (Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 2393). Here I have translated the word ‘thowb’ as cloth and in bracket I wrote ‘blanket’ for that is what it means.
Another version of the same narration:- This becomes further clear from the following narration, also from Sahih Bukhari, in which these last words are rendered as;
لَا تُؤْذِينِي فِي عَائِشَةَ فَإِنَّهُ وَاللَّهِ مَا نَزَلَ عَلَيَّ الْوَحْيُ وَأَنَا فِي لِحَافِ امْرَأَةٍ مِنْكُنَّ غَيْرِهَا
“Don't trouble me regarding 'Aisha, for by Allah, the Divine Inspiration never came to me while I was under the blanket of any woman amongst you except her."(Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 3491)Here the actual word is ‘lihaaf’ which literally means ‘blanket’.  Edward William Lane in Arab-English Lexicon writes about the word ‘lihaaf’, See his lexicon by page 308
And as لِحَافِ (lihaaf) i.e. 'blanket' is made of ثَوْبِ (thowb) i.e. 'cloth' so these words are interchangeably used in various narrations. Sam Shamoun, first inserted the words ‘wearing’ in brackets for no reason. Perhaps he thought that Muslims will also swallow this word in brackets as easily as Christians have been adopting interpolations into the Bible. He translated the word ‘thowb’ as “woman’s clothing” and related it to wearing. You will hardly ever find a liar of this caliber!
Courtesy by Waqar Akbar Cheema!!!

Claim 11: Muhammad (peace be upon him) was engaged in Necrophilia: Now I won’t go into psychological depth to prove the innocence of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) , you will be surprised by the evidence they gave and you may even laugh at this. Before I put forward their evidence you must know what isNecrophilia; like Pedophilia which is a sexual disorder, Necrophilia is also a sexual border but victim is not a child but a dead. Yes!!! All those individuals who love to sex with a dead person are classified in the category of Necrophilia. Let us see their evidence in their own words, Why Prophet Muhammad had a sex with a dead woman?My reference-Hadith 34424Kanzel Omail-, This is from a book called “Kanz Al Umal” (The treasure of workers), in the chapter of ‘The issues of women’, authored by Ali Ibn Husam Aldin, commonly known as Al-Mutaki Al-Hindi. He based his book on the hadith and saying listed in “Al-Jami Al-Saghir”, written by Jalal ud-Din Al-Suyuti. Narrated by Ibn Abbas: “I (Muhammad) put on her my shirt that she may wear the clothes of heaven, and I Slept with her in her coffin (grave) that I may lessen the pressure of the grave. She was the best of Allah’s creature to me after Abu Talib”…The prophet was referring to Fatima, the mother of Ali.” The Arabic Scholar Demetrius explains, “The Arabic word used her for ‘slept’ is “Id’tajat”, and literally means ‘lay down’ with her. It is often used to mean, “lay down to have sex”. Muhammad was understood as saying that he because he slept with her she become like a wife to him so she will be considered like a ‘mother of the believers’. This will supposedly prevent her from being tormented in the grave, since Muslim believed that as people wait for the Judgment Day they will be tormented in the grave. “Reduce the pressure” here means that the torment won’t be as much because she is now a ‘mother of the beleivers’ after Muhammad slept with her and ‘consummated’ the ‘union’. Now if you don’t have any knowledge about Islam, you will consider this right but as a student I must say that this doesn’t even prove anything at all. According to above text, the mother of Ali is now the mother of the believers which is totally wrong. We don’t consider the mother Ali as the mother of the believers. According to Islamic sources on which every scholar have agreed upon is that the total number of the mothers of believer are 11 and the mother of Ali, fatima is not even in the list. وضع,ألقى,قامر,استسلم words for laydown as verbs according to google translator and for the intercourse is جماع and for sex as adjective is جنسي verbs are نكح,ناك,حدد نوع الجنس,جامع and for consummation areإكمال,تحقيق,الدخول If you look at the picture below, the word closest word is وضعwhich is changed grammatically in the Arabic text but it only means ‘lay down’ not ‘lay down to have sex’ and you can see there is no Arabic word for intercourse is mentioned through out the text. This again point towards the hypocrisy of the crusaders. Now someone may say that this is a case for a female, so intercourse must have taken place. Actually Fatima which is the wife of Abu Talib is mother of Hazrat Ali (R.A), now If Ali (R.A) that his cousin had sex with his mother, he couldn’t have faith in Muhammad (peace be upon him) as a Prophet as nobody would like a person who have sex with his mother when she is ‘dead’. Actually, Prophet Just lay down for a while not on her but on the ground to make the test easy for her. (Please check this, I am not sure about its authenticity)

Claim 12: Muslim should bring the example of Jesus and his apostles to justify this act: This is an interesting argument, yet answerable. According to an article titled “Life In the time of Jesus” by Fr. Frederick. Manns, O.F.M,Professor at Franciscan Biblicum Studium - Jerusalem. Translations by Fr. A. Parent O.F.M., and Fr. James Heinsch, O.F.M. under the heading marriage it is written, “From the age of twelve, to twelve and one half years, a young Jewish girl was able to be promised in marriage. Her father still had rights over her: he was able to sell her as a slave to a Jew for seven years. After the age of twelve and one half, the young girl was able to be married. Only the husband could dismiss her, give her his “writ of renouncement”. The contrary was impossible (Mark 10:12 was written in Rome and reflected the juridical situation of that village.) Adultery was punishable by death. When a woman went out she had to veil herself and she was banned from speaking to men. Marriage was arranged by her parents.”(http://198.62.75.1/www1/ofm/mag/TSmgenB3.html)Now Jesus was such a brave man that he preach in synagogues i.e. Luke 13:10-17,Luke 14:1-6, John 18:20 etc and he travelled and visited many villages of Jerusalem i.e. Luke 13:22 and great multitudes followed Jesus wherever he go i.e. Luke 12:1,14:25,21:37, John 6:2 but there is not a single statement in the bible where he condemned these marriages even if Jesus had a longer life, he could have married a ‘young girl’ may be 12 year old even his mother was betrothed to an old guy while she herself was 14 even Jesus was wrongly perceived as son of Joseph i.e. John 1:45, John 6:42 this shows at time marriage of old men with young girls was common. Even the Apostles never condemned such marriages although after the departure of Jesus, they spread in all directions. 
Claim 13: Islam Promotes Pedophilia: This claim is laughable because it can’t even stand on its own ground at all. Before I address let’s make some things very clear. Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) married Ayesha only when she was ‘adult’ enough to take the responsibility (however it seems odd but we are talking about a couple 1400 years ago where climate and lifestyle was completely different and according to science life style does effect human body), Ayesha herself said, “When a girl reaches nine year of age, She is a woman. [Sunan al-Tirmidhi, Kitab al-Nikah]” and she did showed signs of sexual maturity as discussed above and she was precocious too as girl normally learn from their mothers about the household. Now coming to pedophilia, all pedophiles rape children they don’t marry them at all and Ayesha was 9 year old young woman not a 9 year old child (So the confusion should removed that Prophet married a nine year old child but rather a nine year old young woman as you will notice in coming text that how girls living at regions where climate is hot reach puberty early than those living in cold regions). In this context, critics wants to say that ‘Islam promotes child abuse’ which is surprising as well because if Islam is promoting child abuse then Muslim countries would be at the top rank where children are legally abused which is contrary to the fact in contrary many steps were taken to prevent child abuse including genital mutilation, homosexuality etc however, the result isn’t satisfactory at all because ‘Negligence of the Government not of Islam’. I fully agree that a mass marriage of nine year old girl was organized by Hamas but speaking frankly if the girl were mature in every aspect in this age, there is no harm (I highly doubt) but if this was forced, they did a horrible thing. Pedophilia doesn’t belong to any religion, pedophiles are just a bunch of people crazy about sex , please don’t confuse Islam with pedophilia. If the Islam is promoting pedophilia then why no. of pedophiles are constantly growing in America, "The best estimate is that 15% of students will be sexually abused by a member of the school staff during their school career.
•Though, when the American Association of University Women Foundation surveyed more than 1,600 students in eighth through 11th grade, 25 percent of the girls and 10 percent of the boys who said they had been harassed or abused said the harasser was a school employee.
•The number of K-12 public and private school students in 1996 who have been or will be sexually abused by a member of the school staff is nearly 7 million of 51,331,000.
•Between 1% and 5% of teachers sexually abuse or harass students.
•At least a quarter of all school districts in the United States have dealt with a case of staff sexual abuse in the past ten years.
•Most cases of sexual abuse of students by teachers are never reported.
•In nearly half of the cases, suspects were accused of abusing more than one student.
•Only two cases were cases of false accusations; less than 1 percent of the cases studied."  (http://againstred.blogspot.com/2010/04/statistics-on-pedophiles.html)."There are 400,000 registered sex offenders in the United States, and an estimated 80 to 100,000 of them are missing. They're supposed to be registered, but we don't know where they are and we don't know where they're living”.- Ernie Allen, President of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Childrento co-anchor Hannah Storm on The Early Show.
Claim 14: How can a nine year old girl can actually give birth?: Well! leaving aside 1400 years, still there are many cases in the world in which girls of nine year of age give birth to a healthy children. 
The age of puberty varies with race, culture, lifestyle and location. Girls today can give birth to a healthy child at this modern age then what is the problem with a nine year old girl at that time (1400 years ago) and that‘s why the consummation of Ayesha didn’t bring any harm to her. She remained perfectly fine through out her life and remain loyal to her husband.  There are many examples of young girls became mother at a very early age.
Mother
Age of Mother
Father
Location
Notes
Lina Medina
5 years, 7 months and 21 days
Unknown
Lima, Peru
1939: Entering precocious puberty at the age of 5; Medina gave birth to a 2.0 kg (4.4 lb) son, named Gerardo, by caesarean section on May 14, 1939 inLima.
Liza
6 years
Liza’s grandfather
Ukraine
1934: 6-year old girl Liza gave birth naturally in 1934 in Ukraine after being impregnated by her grandfather. The baby was stillborn
Mum-Zi
8 years, 4 months
Unknown
Calabar, Nigeria
Mum-Zi was member of Chief Akkiri's harem on the island of Calabar, Nigeria.
Wanwisa Janmuk
9 years
Janmuk's 27-year-old husband; Thai law allows for the arranged marriages of minors by their parents.
Phetchabun,Thailand
2001: Wanwisa Janmuk gave birth in February 2001 to a girl at a hospital in Phetchabun, a northern province of Thailand
Hilda Trujillo
9 years, 7 months
Trujillo's 22-year-old cousin, who was staying in her family's one-room house at the time, was arrested for rape.
1957: Hilda Trujillo gave birth to a girl weighing over 6 lb (2.7 kg) at a hospital in Lima, Peru in December 1957.
       
                   Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_youngest_birth_mothers
Note: The purpose of above examples was to only show you that a nine year old girl 1400 years ago was a completely and fully matured woman.

*MARRIAGE ISSUES IN ISLAM*
Under this heading I will not discuss every issue relating to marriage but only those that are related to this matter.
1. MARRIAGE CONTRACT: It is allowed in Islam for a father to draft marriage contract years before the marriage is actually enacted but it cannot be executed until a later date. It means her father can marry off his immature is daughter but marriage will not consummated until she become sexually mature.  Under Islamic Law, there are certain shuroot an-nifaadh (conditions required for the execution of the contract): for consummation of marriage, one of these conditions is that both parties are mature enough for marriage. If this condition is not met, then the marriage contract remains mauqoof (suspended) and has no actual practical effect, i.e. the consummation of marriage is delayed until the girl becomes mature enough for that. Shaykh Salih al-Munajjid saidThe fact that it is permissible to marry a young girl does not mean that it is permissible to have intercourse with her; rather that should not be done until she is able for it. For this reason, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah) delayed the consummation of his marriage to ‘Aa’ishah…Al-Dawoodi said: ‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) had reached physical maturity (at the time when her marriage was consummated). [Sharh Muslim, 9/206]
(Source: http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=22442&ln=eng) What western critics failed to comprehend is that although Ayesha (R.A) was betrothed at the age of six or seven but marriage was not consummated until she became ‘sexually mature’.  What happened if a girl failed to adjust with her husband? Two options are there for her.
 (a) Annulment: Under Islamic Law, there is a concept called khiyar al-buloogh, which means “the option of puberty”. It means that while an immature daughter’s marriage can be arranged by an elder, she has the right to annul the marriage at the age of puberty if she is not compatible with her husband.
(b) Separation: Annulment via khiyar al-buloogh is limited to the age of puberty. However, khula is always an option available to a female of any age, and this is a right given to women in the Quran itself. The scholars differ on whether or not khulais a separation [i.e. revocation of a marriage as if it never happened] or a divorce. In any case whether it is divorce or not the point is that she has the right to remove herself from the marriage. According to Islamic laws, if woman find her uncomfortable with her husband then she can contact the court to issue khula, the couples can also do this on grounds of mutual understanding however if husband does not agrees then she can contact the court but it must noted that woman cannot seek khula unless there is a valid reason for it. Ustadh Ayman bin Khaled wrote: If the woman is in a situation—that she cannot stand whom she got married to—she can always ask for divorce through khulu', and if the husband refuses and there is harm on her [from the marriage], the judge can [and should] divorce her.(Ustadh Ayman bin Khaled, Admin of Multaqa Ahl al-Hadeeth). Seeking khula with no reason is not allowed. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said“Any woman who
Asks her husband for a divorce when there is nothing wrong, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.)

2. MARRYING OF IMMATURE GIRLS IS EXCEPTIONAL NOT A RULEUnder Islamic Law, the general principle is that girls should not be married off whilst they are immature and under the age of accountability. This is because they are too young to make an informed decision by themselves. Marrying them without their consultation would be considered oppression. Shaykh Faraz Rabbani declared:Marrying her off like this would in almost every case be a major sin, because of the harm, contravention of law, etc (www.sunniPath.com). However, there is an exception, if father thinks that delaying a marriage would cause her daughter great lost then he can marry her off but the consummation will not take place until she become sexually mature such that any intercourse would cause no harm whatsoever. Imam an-Nawawi said: They (the parents) should not marry her off before she reaches puberty if there is no obvious interest to be served that they fear will be missed out on if they delay it…In that case [if there is a benefit that would be lost with delay] it is preferable to go ahead with the marriage because the father is enjoined to take care of his child’s interests and not to let a good opportunity to slip away. This is the reason why Abu-Bakar married off Ayesha (R.A) early because he did not want to lose the Prophet of God and this is also practiced by Christian Europe for thousands of years where the father of young prince cannot afford of losing a proposal of a mature prince. It should be kept in mind that although Islam allows for such a provision, this only applies to the situation where a father thinks that delaying the marriage would lead to the girl missing out on a great opportunity. Otherwise, Islam does not at all encourage marrying off daughters at such a young age. As Sheikh Salih al-Munajjid said: It is preferable for a guardian not to marry off his daughter when she is still youngunless there is a valid reason for it. 

3. CONSUMMATION OF MARRIAGE IN ISLAM: Under Islamic law like Jewish and Christian laws marriage are sealed after consummation. However, the age of consummation is not nine years or menarche but rather a simple dictum is followed upon which all scholars agreed by consensus. It is, “A man may have sex with his wife when she becomes sexually mature enough such that she is not harmed from having sex in any way whatsoever.” Shaykh Abdul Aziz ibn Ahmad ad-Durayhim, a well-renowned Islamic scholar, was asked about marriage to such a young girl. In response, he said: With respect to what we have said about the legal validity of such a marriage, that
Refers [only] to the validity of the contract itself. As for the effects [i.e. execution] of the marriage—such as privacy, intimacy, and sexual relations—that is another matter entirely. Such things are permitted only if the girl is able to handle such a relationship without any harm whatsoever coming to her. Otherwise, it is prohibited. This is because the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “There shall be neither harm nor the causing of the harm.” It can also be seen in the very conduct of the Prophet (peace be upon him). He did not consummate his marriage with Aisha for a number of years on account of her young age.”

*Early Marriages in Judaism and Christianity*

Is early marriages happened in Islam only? No, actually it is also encouraged in Judaism and Christianity. The authoritative Jewish website, AskMoses.com, says: What is the minimum age of marriage according to Jewish law? By Rabbi Naftali Silberberg
“…In ancient (and not so ancient) times however, marriage was often-times celebrated at a rather young age. Although we do not follow this dictum, technically speaking, a girl may be betrothed the moment she is born, and married at the age of three. [Shulchan Aruch, Even HaEzer 37:1.] A boy may betroth and marry at the age of thirteen. [Shulchan Aruch, Even HaEzer 43:1](AskMoses.com,http://www.askmoses.com/article.html?h=573&o=2488)
The Talmud recommends that a daughter be given in marriage at around the age of twelve (i.e. the commencement of puberty), but Jewish fathers were historically allowed to marry their daughters off even before that age. Surprisingly, the wife could be as young as three years old. According to Jewish Law, such marriages were officially sealed by the man having sex with the baby. We read: In the ancient world, Jewish law seemed to require an act of intercourse for a betrothal to be recognized. The Mishnah said:
"A girl three years old and one day may be betrothed by intercourse […]"(Mishnah, Nid. V. 4). Maimonides
(A. D. 1180) states: "If she is three years and one day old she may be betrothed by an act of intercourse, with the consent of her father. If she is less than that, and her father has her betrothed by an act of intercourse, she is not betrothed"([1972:p18] [78]). Edwardes (1967a:p168)[79]: "The early-marriage tradition of Israel found acceptance in Christendom, whose precocious children bedded and wedded at or even before puberty...At the time of St. Paul, girls were married at puberty or a little before.
(G.U.S.: A World Reference Atlas,http://www2.rz.huberlin.de/sexology/GESUND/ARCHIV/GUS/MIDDLEEASTOLD.HTM)

Jewish girls “got married at the age of nine”, a practice which continued up until “the eve of World War I”. Why then are the Jews criticizing Prophet Muhammad (peace e upon him) for marrying Aisha (peace be upon her) at the age of nine? Is this not hypocrisy? Is this not a case of living in a glass house and throwing stones? Why is it that Christian adversaries condemn Muslims but say nothing at all to their Jewish counterparts? To conclude, we close with the words of Mark E. Pietrzyk:
According to the Talmud, the recommended age for marriage is sometime after twelve for females, and thirteen for males. Marriage below these ages was generally frowned upon. However, a father was allowed to betroth his daughter to another man at an earlier age, and sexual intercourse was regarded as a valid means of sealing a betrothal. The age limit for betrothal through sexual intercourse was shockingly low. According to the Talmud, “A girl of the age of three years and one day may be betrothed by intercourse.”
(Mark E. Pietrzyk, http://www.internationalorder.org/scandal_response.html)

Similar to Jewish Law, Christian Law differentiated between the minimum age of marriage and the absolute minimum age of marriage. Twelve years old was the minimum age of marriage, called the age of consent; in other words, a girl had to be twelve years old before she could arrange her own marriage. But the absoluteminimum age of marriage was in fact seven years of age, during which time her father could arrange her marriage without her permission. (In the Journal of Psychology and Human Sexuality, we read: Age of Consent: A Historical Overview
"Age of Consent throughout history has usually coincided with the age of puberty although at sometimes it has been as early as seven…The Roman tradition served as the base for Christian Europe as well as the Christian Church itself which generally, essentially based upon biological development, set it at 12 or 14 but continued to set the absolute minimum at seven. In the past century there has been a tendency to raise the age of consent but the reasons for the change have not always been clear and the issue has been further complicated by the reluctance of many contemporary historians to recognize what the actual age of consent in the past has been. This failure has distorted the importance of biology on age of consent in the past." (Age of Consent: A Historical Overview,
http://www.haworthpress.com/store/ArticleAbstract.asp?sid=XH16E3FKBF7Q9P
3MKLPC82LUJNKC41U5&ID=87429)

Pre-pubertal marriages arranged by the father are recognized by the Church. Once the girl reaches puberty, she has the option of nullifying the marriage. However, there is a big catch to this: if the man has sex with the pre-pubertal girl, then she can no longer nullify the marriage. Catholic popes argued that even if marriage took place before twelve years of age and before puberty, then such a marriage would still be binding by the law. We read: Sexual intercourse which took place before marital age limits or puberty was not necessarily illicit or sinful. On the contrary, some popes ruled that intercourse below the age of twelve/fourteen had the effect of sealing a marriage contract, as long as such intercourse took place after the age of discretion, which was seven. [Rush, 32-34.Once intercourse had taken place, the marriage could not be annulled. (Mark E. Pietrzyk,http://www.internationalorder.org/scandal_response.html) This is a very important point, and shatters the glass house that the Christians live in.

C. Yandell writes in “Carpe Corpus: Time and Gender in Early Modern France”: In canon law, puberty normally determines marriageable age, although the minimum age for marriage is seven years, "the age of reason", when a child is deemed capable of consent. The lawyer Estienne Pasquier notes that the Digest compiled by Justinian specifies fourteen years for men, twelve for women, but, he adds, if one is capable of carnal cohabitation before this age, marriage is permitted.(Carpe Corpus: Time and Gender in Early Modern France, by Cathy Yandell
p.37),
Christian criticized Ayesha that she was too young for marriage but sadly they have forgotten their past. When girls neared the approximate age of puberty, they were considered marriage material. These pre-pubescent and pubescent girls wereroutinely married off to men who were the same age as their grandfathers. We read: Christian canon law followed Roman law in setting the minimum age of marriage at twelve for females and fourteen for males. The logic behind these marital age limits was that these were the approximate ages of puberty for both genders, indicating readiness for procreation. In ancient Rome, among both pagans and Christians, marriage at an early age was frequent. Betrothals often occurred even before puberty, although the consummation of marriage through intercourse usually did not take place until after the girl’s first menstruation. Very often, the age of discrepancy of marriage partners was great. According to one historian, “the matching of a man with a woman young enough to be his daughter or even granddaughter was generally accepted.” [Treggiari, 102; John C. O'Dea, The Matrimonial Impediment of Nonage (Washington, DC: Catholic University of America Press, 1944)]
(Mark E. Pietrzyk, http://www.internationalorder.org/scandal_response.html)

In a paper published at a symposium on Byzantine Studies, we read: Baptism, usually at birth, was the fundamental rite of incorporation into the body of Christ and the Church…Betrothal, sometimes as early as the age of five,
marked another stage in the child’s social incorporation. (Byzantine Studies: 2006 Spring Symposium,
http://www.doaks.org/byz_2006_symposium_abstracts.html )

*EARLY MARRIAGES UNDER HINDU LAW*
Due to the situation in Kashmir, many Hindus harbor ill will towards Muslims. As a consequence, some of them attack Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) by accusing him of being a pedophile. Yet, a quick look at the Hindu religious texts is enough to refute them. In the Hindu religious scripture known as the Manu-smriti, we read:
Gautama (18-21).— A girl should be given in marriage before puberty.
Vashistha (17.70).— Out of fear of the appearance of the menses, let the father
marry his daughter while she still runs about naked. For if she stays in the home
after the age of puberty, sin falls on the father.
Bodhayana (4.1.11).— Let him give his daughter, while she still goes about
naked, to a man who has not broken the vow of chastity and who possesses good
Qualities, or even to one destitute of good qualities; let him not keep the maiden
In his house after she has reached the age of puberty.
(Manu IX, 88; http://www.payer.de/dharmashastra/dharmash083.htm)
The Encyclopedia of Religion and Ethics says:
[It was considered] sinful on the part of the [Hindu] father to allow his daughter to attain puberty without being married and the girl herself fell to the condition of a Sudra [i.e. low caste], marriage with whom involved degradation on the part of the husband…the Smrti of Manu fixes the age of husband and wife at 30 and 12 or 24 and 8 respectively; the later work of Brhaspati and the didactic portion of the Mahabharata give the wife’s age in these cases as 10 and 7 respectively, while yet later texts give 4 to 6 as the lower and 8 as the upper limit. There is
abundant evidence that these dates were not merely theoretical. (Encyclopedia of Religion and Ethics, p.450,
http://books.google.com/books?id=INJI4FGeLpYC&pg=PA523&lpg=PA523&dq
=manu+ix+a+girl+should+be+given+in+marriage+before+puberty&source=web
&ots=7WP3uyXj9V&sig=HN-O7gG0ya_0QTuwCvEUjGPQG_Y#PPA522,M1)

*EARLY MARRIAGES BY CHRISTIANIS SAINTS*

1. Saint Augusting was betrothed himself to 10 year old girl when he was of 31 year of age.(Mark E. Pietrzyk, http://www.internationalorder.org/scandal_response.html)
2. Saint Agnes fielded marriage proposals when she was nearly 12 years old.(Domestic-Church.com, http://www.domesticchurch.
com/CONTENT.DCC/19980101/SAINTS/STAGNES.HTM)
3. Saint Hedwig of Acdechs was married off at the age of twelve to Henry I of Silesia.
4. Saint Rita of Cascia was betrothed at the age of twelve to a man named Paola Mancini.
5. Saint Mary of Jesus Crucified was betrothed at the age of 13.
6. Saint Elizabeth of Portugal, patron of the Third Order of St. Francis, was married off
at the age of twelve.

*EARLY MARRIGES BY CHRISITANS NOBLES AND KINGS*

They are countless examples but we deal with only the best.
1. King Richard II, at the age of thirty, married a French princess named Isabella who
was only seven years old at the time.
2. Duchess of Milan, Bianca of Savoy, was married off at the age of thirteen.
3. Theodora Comnena was married off at the age of thirteen to King Baldwin III, who
was more than double her age.
4. King Adronikos I Komnenos, the valiant Christian leader of the Byzantine Empire,
married the twelve year old Agnes of France when he was sixty-four years old.
5. King Denis of Portugal married the twelve year old Saint Elizabeth of Portugal.
6.Girolamo Riario, Lord of Imola and Forli, married the nine year old Caterina
Sforza.
7. Count Agness of Essex was betrothed at the age of only three years old and
married off at the age of twelve to a man who was almost fifty years of age.
8.Richard of Shrewsbury, King Edward IV’s son, married the five year old Anne
Mowbray of Norfolk.
9. King Haakon VI of Norway married ten year old Queen Margaret.
10. Count Agness of Essex was betrothed at the age of only three years old and married off the age of twelve to a man who was fifty years of age.
11. Prince Edward of Wales married the French king’s daughter Isabella, who was only seven years old.
12. Romanos II married Bertha (renamed Eudokia), the daughter of the king of Italy when she was four years old.
13. Stephen Milutin, the Kral of Seberia married Simonis the daughter of Emperor Androikos II, when she was only five years old. At the time marriage, Stephen Milutin was fifty years old.
14. Edward I married the nine year old Eleanor of Castile.
15. Richard of Shrewsbury, King Edward IV’s son, married five year old Anne Mowbray Norfolk.
16. Mary Stewart married Henry VIII when she was only six.
Perhaps a Christian polemicist would argue that these Christian royals were individuals and do not represent Christianity. Yet, this argument is weakened when we take into account that no royal marriage was validated without the consent and approval of the Christian Church! Papal consent was a prerequisite of the time. To illustrate this, we can look at the example of the marriage of Prince Edward to the young Isabella: Given that twelve was the canonical age for marriage, and that in 1298 the Pope had stipulated that she should marry Prince Edward as soon as she reached that age, these dates are viable. In the same document of June 1298, the Pope describes Isabella as being 'under seven years', which places her birth at any time from 1291 onwards. Furthermore, the Treaty of Montreuil (June 1299) provided for Isabella's betrothal and marriage to take place when she reached the
respective canonical ages of seven and twelve. So she must have reached seven before May 1303, and twelve before January 1308. (Isabella,http://bookshop.blackwell.co.uk/jsp/bobuk_editorial/ongoing_features/choice/extr
act_isabella.jsp)

*JEWISH AND CHRISTIAN PROPHETS*

According to the holy scriptures of Jews and Christians.
1. Prophet Abraham (peace be upon him) married Hagar (peace be upon him) when he was
Sixty or sevently year older than her. (Genesis, Chapter 16, verses 1–4, 15–16, NIV)
2. We read in the Bible that King David lay beside a young virgin, by which was
Meant a girl who had just attained the age of puberty.(1 Kings, Chapter 1, verses 1–4, NIV)
3. According to the Judeo-Christian tradition, Prophet Isaac (peace be upon him)
was forty years old when he married Rebecca (Rivka) who was only three years old at
the time!

*HISTORICAL AGE OF MARRIAGE IN WESTERN COUNTRIES*

1. During Biblical times: Theology.edu, a website maintained by a reputable Christian ministry, clearly mentions in an article entitled “Ancient Israelite Marriage Customs” that the age of marriage was around the age of puberty: The wife was to be taken from within the larger family circle (usually at the outset of puberty or around the age of 13) in order to maintain the purity of the family line. (Jim West,(Jim West, ThD; http://www.theology.edu/marriage.htm)
2. The age of marriage in Rome was between twelve and fourteen for girls. (About.com, http://marriage.about.com/cs/teenmarriage/a/teenmarriage.htm)
3. The marriages in early Greece took place as soon as the girl hits puberty. (Daily Life in Greece at the Time of Pericles, http://links.jstor.org/sici?sici=0075-4269(1966)86%3C250%3ADLIGAT%3E2.0.CO%3B2-W ,
http://www.richeast.org/htwm/Greeks/marriage/marriage.html )


*HISTROY OF MARRIAGE IN NON-WESTERN COUNTRIES*


1. It is stated in the article "Marriage in Egypt" that the age of puberty of girls is 13-14 and
14 for boys but according to certain documents they marriage took place at the age of 8.
(TourEgypt.com, http://www.touregypt.net/featurestories/marriage.htm)
2. Jack Goody is a fellow of St. John’s College in Cambridge. In his book The Oriental, the
Ancient, and the Primitive, we find that girls were married off very early in Indian
Households and sometimes before 'puberty'. (The Oriental, the Ancient, and the Primitive, p.208.
http://books.google.com/books?id=CZQRMZo956QC&pg=PA207&lpg=PA207
&dq=age+of+marriage+ancient+japan&source=web&ots=5WGazdlO6f&sig=rvR
tOggFs6yteb0Rks251bg-_k4#PPP1,M1)
3. Child marriages in Russia were common during nineteenth century. (G.U.S.: World Atlas, http://www2.huberlin.
de/sexology/GESUND/ARCHIV/GUS/RUSSIA.HTM#_Toc82813007)
4. In preindustrial China girls were married after puberty and sometimes before puberty. (G.U.S.: World Atlas, http://www2.huberlin.
de/sexology/GESUND/ARCHIV/GUS/CHINA.HTM#_Toc85469111)
5. The ancient Mongols married off their daughters at a very young age. Even today, it is
very common to see Mongol girls being wedded at the age of four or five years of age.(G.U.S.: A World Atlas, http://www2.huberlin.
de/sexology/GESUND/ARCHIV/GUS/MONGOLIA.HTM)
6. The traditional Aborigines similarly married their daughters off during childhood.(G.U.S.: A World Atlas, http://www2.huberlin.
de/sexology/GESUND/ARCHIV/GUS/ABORIGINALAUSTRALIA.HTM
#_Toc82729383)
7. The practice of marrying girls at a young age was prevalent amongst Native American
populations as well, as we read in an article entitled “Living Arrangements Among
Native American Elders” (Living Arrangements among Native American Elders,
http://www.pop.psu.edu/general/pubs/working_papers/psu-pri/wp9605.pdf.)
8. Amongst the various tribes of Africa, we find that the practice of marrying off girls at the
age of puberty and even before that was very common. (G.U.S.: A World Atlas,http://www2.huberlin.
de/sexology/GESUND/ARCHIV/GUS/AFRICA.HTM#_Toc86519743).In many parts of Africa, girls continue to get married upon the commencement of puberty. UNICEF recently surveyed six African countries. (UNICEF, http://www.unicef-icdc.org/publications/pdf/digest7e.pdf)

*RANGE OF PUBERTY*

Now as you look above the age of marriage for a girl is quite early. Now a non-Muslim may argue that the age of the Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) when he married Ayesha (R.A) was  6 years and consummated the marriage at nine but this argument also doesn't hold water  as the age of puberty varies with location, girls living at or near to the equator reach puberty  than those living on arctic or Antarctic regions. Also the 'average' age of marriage is 12 years old as you see above, but here one must know what is the meaning of the word 'average', actually both 'average' and 'median' words mean that the value is the middle of the two extreme values, it means it must range from 9-14 under normal circumstances. Therefore, if some girls attain the age of puberty at twelve, then others are having their periods at nine and still others at fifteen. LiveScience.com saysThere is a range, and this has been part of the problem of establishing the "normal" age of puberty. Girls might enter full-blown puberty anytime between ages 9 and 15.

(LiveScience.com, http://www.livescience.com/health/070904_bad_puberty.html) So, girls will go through “full-blown puberty” at various ages, anywhere from between nine and fifteen years of age. HealthTouch.com says:
“Puberty usually starts between ages 8 to 13 in girls”
(HealthTouch.com,

http://www.healthtouch.com/bin/EContent_HT/cnoteShowLfts.asp?fname=07103
&title=PUBERTY+IN+GIRLS+&cid=HTHLTH)

Even if we look simply at menarche, we can see that the age varies greatly. A medical journal on Cambridge.org says: "The variable age at menarche was normally distributed with an age range of 7–24"
years.(Cambridge.org, journals.cambridge.org/production/action/cjoGetFulltext?fulltextid=10260 )
HerWord.com says:
"Don’t be surprised if your nine-year-old daughter will have her menarche that
early."
(HerWord.com, http://www.herword.com/healthdesk/others/changes10.28.03.html)

*RANGE OF PUBERTY VARIES WITH LOCATION*


As stated above age of puberty varies with location. Some scientists attribute this to the warmer
Climate, whereas others attribute this to additional factors such as exposure to light.HerWord.com says:
"There was a study conducted showing that girls who live in countries close to the
equator started their menstruation earlier."
(HerWord.comhttp://www.herword.com/healthdesk/others/changes10.28.03.html)



The average temperature of the country or province is considered the chief factor here, not only with regard to menstruation but as regards the whole of sexual development at puberty.
             

(Herman H. Ploss, Max Bartels and Paul Bartels; Woman: An Historical,
Gynecological and Anthropological Compendium, Volume I, Lord & Bransby,
1988, p.563; http://www.biblioz.com/lp25762280577_207.html)


As you can see that the age of puberty varies with location, this means that in Arabia where climate is very hot , there is are higher chances that girls may reach puberty as early as 9 thus the above evidence supports our claim that the age of puberty was much younger at our Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W)’s time.  Just within one hundred years the age of puberty has a dramatic change and can imagine that a great change could have taken place within a span of 1000 years.  The historical literature does indeed suggest that the average age of puberty was much younger in Eastern countries. The Cambridge World History of Food says: “Albrecht von Haller (1775), for example, claimed that girls in the southerly regions of Asia, where the climate was warm, were marriageable in their eighth year and gave birth in their ninth or tenth year; conversely, women in Arctic regions did not menstruate until age 23 or 24. This view was shared by other eighteenth-century writers, most notably J.F. Freind (1738), Herman
Boerhaave (1744), and Montesquieu (1751).” (The Cambridge World History of Food, p.1455,

http://books.google.com/books?id=tAnsCn0A3rcC&pg=PA1455&lpg=PA1455&
dq=average+age+of+puberty+climate&source=web&ots=MQwdFaB1iY&sig=GwJ-pPjE3b0hrx8KYYNRKTuVxE#PPA1454,M1)

It is generally accepted that historically girls in Eastern civilizations reached puberty before their European counterparts, which was one of the reasons that marriage oftentimes took place a few years earlier in the Orient. The


Southern Medical and Surgical Journal says:
“It is allowable to infer that early marriage in oriental countries (which has generally, but without any proof, been ascribed to precocious puberty) ....” (The Southern Medical and Surgical Journal, p.41)

Conclusion:
          "Of all the world's great men, none has been so much maligned* as Muhammad."
W. Montgomery Watt, Muhammad at Medina, Oxford University Press, 1956.
* ma-lign: v.t. to speak harmful untruths about... (R. H. Webster's).
It is very sad that a person like Muhammad (peace be upon him) who highly forgiving and noble in character is much maligned by westerners. His arrival is also mentioned in the sacred scriptures of all the great religions of the planet earth including Judaism, Christianity, and Hinduism etc. I tried to answer the entire baseless allegation against Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and I pray for forgiveness if I missed a single one. Baseless charges against Muhammad (peace be upon him) put forward by critics is an alarming situation for Muslims who have abandoned their religion and discarded the values of their great ancestors. In this article, I tried to expose the truth and corruption of Crusaders and their agenda to put an end to Islam. It is indeed supervising that in western media there is so much talk about Al-Qaeda but none of them pay attention of black water and other terrorist organization that are funded by the government themselves. My message to all the critics who insult Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)  is  that people like you were also present at his time thinking that they can put a full stop to Islam by inventing lies but little did they know that God was with his Prophet; He helped his Prophet not only to overcome all difficulties but also to form an exemplary society never seen in the history of Humanity, so it’s better that you should also appreciate the greater truth of Islam and Muhammad (peace be upon him).  I bear witness that there is no God but Allah (S.W.T) and Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) as the last and final messenger of God.


JazakaALLAH for reading,


Yours in Islam, 


Ahmed.


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